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Posted by brookealm2 @brookealm2, Dec 9, 2019

My mom’s throat has been hurting and she says she feels like there is a lump / mass growing there. My mom complained about this issue nearly 7 years ago and they found a small tumor in her brain, but nothing in her throat. They said they would monitor the brain tumor through MRI / CT scan or something every 5 years. I am worried sick now that this lump she speaks of might be cancerous as she claims she feels like it is growing as well. She is going to the doctors on Wednesday. Do you think it is cancerous or could it possibly be something else? I am so upset over this. She has complaining about this for nearly a month. Please respond ASAP as I am struggling really bad with not having any idea what this might be other than cancer!!! );

Good morning @brookealm2 . Welcome to Connect. We’re a community that shares health experiences and help each other with support and information. But we’re not doctors. One of the best things you can do for your mom is to remain calm ( at least in her presence) and be her strong assistant. Today, you, with your mom, can start writing in a notebook. Write what she notices in her throat and how long it’s been there, does it interfere with swallowing, do certain foods bother her throat, etc. Write down her health history, medications, family health history, etc. Then write down all possible questions for the doctor. On a separate page, put the doctor’s name she will be seeing and take LOTS of notes. It’s better to have it written down than swirling all around your head!
Taking charge of yourself and the situation will really help to reduce your anxiety. Will you or a family member be able to accompany your mom tomorrow?

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Good morning @brookealm2 . Welcome to Connect. We’re a community that shares health experiences and help each other with support and information. But we’re not doctors. One of the best things you can do for your mom is to remain calm ( at least in her presence) and be her strong assistant. Today, you, with your mom, can start writing in a notebook. Write what she notices in her throat and how long it’s been there, does it interfere with swallowing, do certain foods bother her throat, etc. Write down her health history, medications, family health history, etc. Then write down all possible questions for the doctor. On a separate page, put the doctor’s name she will be seeing and take LOTS of notes. It’s better to have it written down than swirling all around your head!
Taking charge of yourself and the situation will really help to reduce your anxiety. Will you or a family member be able to accompany your mom tomorrow?

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No, no one will be there with her. I go to school in Texas and my mom is home in Connecticut. She is going mid-day so no one will be able to accompany her. I was just hoping someone had some insight into what this could potentially be because it’s scaring me.

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@brookealm2

No, no one will be there with her. I go to school in Texas and my mom is home in Connecticut. She is going mid-day so no one will be able to accompany her. I was just hoping someone had some insight into what this could potentially be because it’s scaring me.

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@brookealm2 You’re far away from your mom so I know your scared, but try not to think of the worst case scenario. It’s very hard being young and away from home and, I’ll bet exams are coming up. Do you have a doctor in Texas or a school health clinic? You might make an appointment and talk to the doctor and she what she/he suggests. Will you try that? And, let me know what they say—I worry about you

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@brookealm2

No, no one will be there with her. I go to school in Texas and my mom is home in Connecticut. She is going mid-day so no one will be able to accompany her. I was just hoping someone had some insight into what this could potentially be because it’s scaring me.

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Hi @brookealm2, any update on your mom?

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I had a left nodule thyroid removed on 26 November. Has your mom had fine needle aspersions (biopsy) done? Also called FNA?
Needs that find before any surgery. Do a lot of research before heading to surgery.

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Research helps immensely. Knowledge replaces fear. I want to know my battles so I can arrange my armor

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Yes you are right if we don’t know what we are facing it’s impossible to react. I’ve been reading and researching cancer of various kinds. Unfortunately I have not found much research or solutions-treatment my specific types of cancer
3 major surgeries since 29 July. Today I have no idea what comes next. Doctors seem to not understand what type of treatment will work so I just pray that my guardian angel guides me through

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@nobody

Yes you are right if we don’t know what we are facing it’s impossible to react. I’ve been reading and researching cancer of various kinds. Unfortunately I have not found much research or solutions-treatment my specific types of cancer
3 major surgeries since 29 July. Today I have no idea what comes next. Doctors seem to not understand what type of treatment will work so I just pray that my guardian angel guides me through

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What types of cancer have you had, @nobody?

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@brookealm2

No, no one will be there with her. I go to school in Texas and my mom is home in Connecticut. She is going mid-day so no one will be able to accompany her. I was just hoping someone had some insight into what this could potentially be because it’s scaring me.

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@brookealm2 Thinking and praying for you and your mom. Hoping the doctor's appointment brought some insite to either help find a good treatment option or relief by knowing how to resolve her symptoms. I really hate the unknown sometimes. It is scary – feels out of control. I hope you have some answers, a good plan, and plenty of prayers to face whatever it is during this Christmas season with your mom. ♥️

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@brookealm2

No, no one will be there with her. I go to school in Texas and my mom is home in Connecticut. She is going mid-day so no one will be able to accompany her. I was just hoping someone had some insight into what this could potentially be because it’s scaring me.

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Goodmorning @brookealm2. My adult daughters rarely can accompany me to my appointments (one in Chicago and one in St. Paul with two young children, demanding job, and a an EMT-Firefighter husband.) At first, I did not want to burden them with information. Over time, I realized keeping them in the loop, even when there isn't a clear answer, helps all of us. They know what I know about the disease and treatment options.

I asked my doctor if I could record an appointment to review later on with my daughters. She was fine with that. Maybe your mom's doctor would be okay if you attended a session by phone? I think it was Becky who said knowledge is power.
Do what you need to do to take care of yourself for both your sakes. Get support, find information and maintain a curious, hopeful attitude!
Sending healing thoughts. Susan

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It’s really hard to find someone you can trust to accompany you to the Drs appointments or whatever else is in store. I talk to God.
My Doctors think I’m crazy because I listen to them carefully, ask appropriate questions, laugh out load and tell them to have a great day.
To move through all the land mines I have found that I have to keep my humor, smile and push forward. Yesterday is gone, today has been good and tomorrow may never come. You know I tell myself I could also get hit by s bus. I am truly blessed. God walks with me and when the Doctor (first Doctor) I saw , told me “well you are dying” I just laughed as there was nothing else to say so I bid her a nice day gathered my purse and walked out. She is not God. Looked into a lot of Doctors and hospitals. I have no idea what lays ahead so I just live for today. God bless you all.

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@brookealm2 I haven’t heard from you in a while. Are you doing OK? What did your mom find out from the doctors? Please contact me—I care

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