Parenting adult child with depression
After a series of disappointing life events, periods of unemployment and under-employment, combined with clinical depression, my son who is in his forties has, in my therapist’s words, checked out. Bottom line is that I support him financially in terms of keeping a roof over his head. He is compliant with his meds but is in need of a new therapist due to our move and to his therapist’s downsizing her practice. He is in grad school to obtain an MSW, edits online to earn minimal pay, and does some community activist volunteer work but, in essence, is not gainfully employed. The major manifestation of his illness is episodes of profound lethargy, e.g., sleeping all day. His seven year old son sees this and I worry about that though he does take some responsibility for his daily care. In summary, he’s like a teenager again in some ways. It’s as if being a student has brought him back to his late teens or early twenties. With the help of my therapist I have acknowledged that this all causes frustration and anger in me but due to his history of suicidal ideation in the past – and years ago he was in both residential and IOPs – I’m obviously reluctant to rock the boat, turn on tough love, or whatever. It’s not the money, believe me. It’s the concern that my support is enabling and that isn’t good in the long run. Any advice from either those of you with depression or those of you caring for a loved one with it would be appreciated.