I started having the pain before I started having kids. The pain is when my husband inserts his penis. I feel a lot of pressure and it is very painful when he does deep penetration. Now mind you this use to not bother me. I enjoy having rough intercourse. Well as time went on, after having 2 children, I found out that I had endometerosis. So at the age of 29, I decided to have a full hyst, thinkng that would solve my problem but unfortunately it didn’t. I am gettting very flustrated because I am not able to enjoy my sex life. I have been to the gyn to see if they could help me and all they want to do is send me to a pain clinic (not). I am hoping someone out there has experience and can relate to what I am going through. Please Help!!
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Have you had a hysterectomy? I had the same thing happen to me a few months back. When I went for my well woman checkup my doctor told me that I had what they call” grainey tissue” he swabbed some medicine on the place which was raw and apparently bleeding. It was very painful and I cramped for a few days. No intercourse for 7-10 days. I waited the 10 days because I was afraid it would hurt still but it didn’t. ,it made a huge difference. I had a hysterectomy back in like 2000 so I just thought that I wouldn’t have any other issues like that. I hope your doctor can find out what it is.
Yea, I had a hysterectomy 4 to 5 yrs ago. I thought that would have fixed the problem but it didn’t. I wish the doctors could find out what is going on. Would love to have my sex life back. I am over weight, so I am trying really hard to lose weight. I hope losing the weight will help me. Thanks for replying
Pain during/after sex
I’m 64 and experiencing pain and burning during and after sex I use lubricants. Sometimes it feels like there is an obstruction.
@lola88 Welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect, a place to give and get support.
You are experiencing pain during intercourse and you are looking for support. Members like @court135 @king75 @sandytoes14 @naturegirl5 @gingerw.
Below I have linked a previous related discussion. You may wish to scroll through the previous posts for information, suggestions, and/or support.
– Recurrent vaginal irritation/painful intercourse https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/recurrent-vaginal-irritationpainful-intercourse/
In order to better connect you with members, may I ask if you have had any issues/surgeries with your sexual organs in the past?
No surgeries other than after my second child was born. The area between the vagina and anus was pretty torn up and had to go back for surgery. I was told my area was very short between the two. However, it is not until the past year that I have been experiencing pain and burning with intercourse.
@lola88 As we age, there is a lessening of lubrication that the body naturally releases. The lubricants you are using may not be suitable for you, anymore. Also, our vaginas and surrounding genital areas are prone to atrophy simply due to age. My suggestion is to speak with your primary care person [Dr or NP] and inquire about their thoughts based on your particular case. That is what I did, and was able to better understand my situation. Keep in mind, also, there are certain medications that may dry out mucus membranes, and our whole genital areas qualify as a mucus membrane. So, your mouth and sinuses are not the only thing that dries up, so does your nether region!
Please come back and let me know if you are able to get any relief to your concerns>
You may need to try a different position.
To all of you. Mayo in Jacksonville Florida has a doctor who specializes in women’s issues such as sex, etc. Dr. Thielen, if you live near or could get an appt. that would be great. Or if you can find a doctor who specializes in women’s sexual issues.
She was amazing. They even have physical therapist that help women strengthen this pelvic floor and other muscles after a hysterectomy. She had suggestions for tools, creams etc. you just need to find one in your area.
Aging also reduces our femaie hormones which lubricate the vagina. Often referred to as 'dry vagina'. This can make intercourse 'painful' . Your doctor or health professiona; can prescribe a 'hormone' cream/ointment that can be inserted into the vagina on a weekly (or more) interval which will improve the natural moisture and lubrication in the vagina
a non hormone cream, Repleanse