I live with my elderly parents. My mom began having memory problems in 2011 and we found a wonderful neurologist who was working with her. I have a sibling that lives about 3 hours away and for a few years she would help by going to appointments. Then mom’s short term memory got worse and she became angry with the neurologist because the memory test were too difficult. At this point there were some medications and something called a memory clinic. Mom refused to go back and my dad supported this decision. Now mom’s short term memory is really bad and dad is having some cognitive issues as well. They need to move to assisted living, but have not begun the process. Dad procrastinates and just doesn’t get around to things. So, my sibling has washed her hands of this. I just had a knee replacement 5 months ago and will be having rotator cuff surgery in a week. I also need my left knee done. I am doing all I can to prepare before the surgery. I have at least a months worth of meals frozen. I have a friend who is taking me to the hospital. My parents are mad because I made an advanced directive and they are not on it. I do not feel they are able to make decisions on my behalf at this point. My sibling is on, however, she never seem to be able to come and help. She has not been here since before my knee surgery. My son is unable to be much help as he is working and taking classes. And that is the extent of my immediate family. They need help making decisions, but don’t want help and I feel stuck in the middle. They will be unable to give me the help I need as I recover. Dad says he can do it, but I ended up doing more that I should after my knee replacement. This time I will not be able to use my dominant hand. I am going to have to rely on friends that are available. And there are days when they are not. I am feeling overwhelmed and, I hate to admit it, but resentful, towards my sibling. My hands are pretty much tied at the moment. Some days I would like to live on a deserted island. 🙂 I will say that I am active in my church, so I am not stuck at home all the time. But I do feel like we have reversed roles now.