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Posted by Anonymous-3f3b8acb in Brain & Nervous System, Mar 19, 2012

I'm praying to return to full-time work soon, I'm a mom, a grandma, a sister, a daughter, an ex-wife who will always be supportive, a friend, a consumer, a strong advocate for equality, and in being all these things like many of you life can get hectic.
So, I thought that instead of posting about 1 specific topic, I would post a generic discussion so you all can connect and support one another regardless of the topic
We, human beings, have so much to share and express and get non-judgemental feedback on that it seemed logical.
So many of us, perhaps all of us, could use a little breather from what initially attracted us to this website.
I'm sure there are so many other things going on (Good & stressful) in our lives; that we would like to explore and brainstorm on that if given the opportunity we just may be better equipped to confront what originally brought us here.
The common goal is to express yourself, bounce ideas off each other, learn because there is a level of learning that takes place (I have learned so much) and simply support one another.
What I have noticed about my postings on depression is that we have a common thread of discussions and they branch out to other aspects of who we are; work, relationships, stress, burn out, frustrations, joy's, meaning, goals, aging gracefully, side effects and human kindness.
I met a special friend on this site "Piglit", and I'm sure many of you have been blessed by her kindness as well, and it is simply a wonderful feeling, when you can establish new relationships and can give other's a break and expand your support network!
So, who will take a chance and post first?!!"
In solidarity about being good to thy neighbors 🙂

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dc35

Posted by @dc35, Mar 19, 2012

Hello, thank you for the reminder, there is good, sometimes I forget. Our 17 yr old son is bi polar and my aging mother has Alzeimers. Our son is in a difficult age anyway and adding the bi bolar is just plain nuts sometimes. We are always tweaking his meds. She does live with us. Sometimes I go home and just want to turn around and leave. I have kleptomanica and steal. So life is not barrel of laughs. My husband is a saint who I sometimes wonder how he stays as we celebrate 20 years.
How does one put some of this to rest and get over our own problems? Thanks for the input.

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Mar 20, 2012

Wow, you have a lot going on! You ask how to take care and deal with so much.
personally, I believe that if I'm not good to myself it can be very challenging to care for and support others wholeheartedly. If we are not well others can pick up on this and then a cycle of worrying begins and burn out is inevitable.
Try to make a list of goals that you wish to achieve in the next year and work diligently to achieve them. One may have to be the stealing before you get yourself into legal problems which will only ad more stressors and most likely be embarrassing to your loved ones as well as self.
Best,
Rox

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Mar 21, 2012

Hi you do have such a lot going on at the moment. I am an aged care worker and was just wondering with your mum is there is a support group within the community where you live, that may be able to help you. Just thought that this may help to take a liitle of the pressure off you. Also you have a wonderful husband,you are lucky to have his support, sounds alot like mine. You need to take care of yourself and have time for yourself. Take care here if you need me Piglit

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Apr 18, 2012

Hi dc35
Is everything ok? Just checking in with friends who have not posted in a while.
Take care
Rox

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Mar 22, 2012

Lost a special person. I've always instructed loved ones to cremate my body when that time arrives. Sadly, when someone who had an impact on you and was a blessing from God passes and is cremated one is left feeling like closure will be almost impossible.
People are dying so young and I feel badly that in trying to heal thyself I unfortunately lost touch with individuals who were giving, accepting, positive and touched by an ability to accept everyone and make all those around them smile and have hope.
R

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Mar 22, 2012

Dear Rox so very sorry to hear the sad news about your friend, God bless always here if you need me. Piglit

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Mar 22, 2012

Change is needed in our lives. Try to not only be good to yourself but other's
hopeful

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Mar 22, 2012

We all need to realize that our life is precious as is everyone's. I think we need to live for the moment. Enjoy as much as we can, give of ourselves as much as we can. We all so need to take care and nuture ourselves and others. In life we are faced with so many different things many of which are quite big challenges to us all. Take time today to send our prayers to my dear friend Roxie who is so very sad as to the lose of an irreplaceable dear friend. Roxie's friend made such a difference to this world and loved the people who surrounded her with love. A special soul who I know is at peace. Take time also my dear friends to send prayers to her friend's family who would be feeling this very sad lose. God Bless Piglit

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Mar 23, 2012

God bless you. I'm better. You are so right. Try to enjoy your life no matter what because we just never know when it will be our turn.....
Peace

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Mar 28, 2012

Decided to start taking walks in my neighborhood & it's true a little exercise improves the mood.
Take care all
Rox

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Mar 28, 2012

Walking is good for you. I always say it helps to blow away the cobwebs lol Piglit

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Mar 28, 2012

I love it when you're comical.

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Mar 28, 2012

well when you get back you won't have any lol

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roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Mar 28, 2012

Hysterical! Been a while I'm sure I do.LOL

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Mar 28, 2012

You no my sense of humour and being able to laugh has helped me through the many years ups and downs. As the old age saying goes Laughter is your best medicine, Enjoy the walk

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roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Mar 31, 2012

When a loved one passes it is difficult no matter how old they were. My paternal Grammy passed and lived to 96. She had a full life and I'm humbled to have been part of it until she was moved to a warmer state because the cold was getting to be much. My favorite paternal uncle told me today that he was ok because her final year's were difficult for her as her health was declining.
I find solace in knowing that she is no longer suffering. I'm home thinking of what to pack and reminiscing of earlier times...kind of nostalgic
cherish your loved ones.
Rox

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Apr 25, 2012

Well I had a good nights sleep for a change but I woke up with a swollen left eye. I have to laugh because I feel like an old beat up car that needs a serious tune-up! Oh well, it's not the end of the world. Have a nice day my friends and remember that each day we wake up is a blessing and an opportunity to make an impact in our lives as well as others ..positive impacts ....
Roxie

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piglit

Posted by @piglit, Apr 25, 2012

so true Rox and thank you for my gift Each day is the beginning of a new day and if we startwith a bright outlook the sun may even shine

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roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Apr 26, 2012

My long walk today felt so good. I'm about to take an Aleve because I'm sore LOL totally out of shape but I have to start somewhere.
Rox

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piglit

Posted by @piglit, Apr 26, 2012

At least youv'e made a start Rox and walking is so good for you. Remember the cobwebs lol piglit

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Apr 27, 2012

Hysterical!

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Apr 27, 2012

least I can make you laught

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Apr 27, 2012

I needed that! Perfect timing my dear friend

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Apr 28, 2012

You're welcome Piglit..

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Apr 28, 2012

Lazy today because it's windy and cold.

china

Posted by @china, Apr 27, 2012

Wish I could say I was sleeping. Sleepless night lately making me stress at work. Sounds like you feel better. I think I need to buy some melatonim for sleeping

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Apr 30, 2012

Hope your sleep improves.
Rox

china

Posted by @china, Apr 30, 2012

Feeling a little better. Keeping busy. How bout u.

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Apr 30, 2012

Glad your feeling a little better and it's good to keep busy if we can

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china

Posted by @china, May 4, 2012

Hanging on. I wish depression didn't exist. Stess amplifies everything doesn't it. Try 2 be less stressed but can't always. How's everyone.

piglit

Posted by @piglit, May 4, 2012

I.m okay thanks for asking China. I think that we would all wish for depression not to exist. Stress doesn't help any situation.We just have to keep on and face the challenges that are placed before us at times and be as strong as we can. Take care Piglit

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, May 4, 2012

I am trying to face the challenges my Piglit but boy I would love a little break in between them.
Take care,
Roxie

piglit

Posted by @piglit, May 5, 2012

and I would love to be able to arrange for you to have a break in between. This has been a real test of your strength hasn't it my dear friend x0

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, May 5, 2012

I will be ok. I have to believe this. Being lazy today so I guess this is my break. If, I could only turn off the thoughts...
Rox

piglit

Posted by @piglit, May 5, 2012

You can't turn off the thoughts but you have to sort of re arrange them I know it sounds silly but you'll really work yourself up. You know many years ago my dad had an anurysym going through the main artery into the heart. At anytime this could have burst and him die, We waited for him to have this done. He came through the surgery and was okay. With your Mum I know that you are worried but if the dr's considered this to be endangering to her in anyway she wouldn't be waiting to have the surgery done, Always here Piglitx0

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, May 17, 2012

Wow this was posted a while back and I'm still not back. In a way, I'm not missing anything but on another note it has been costly.
On a good note, my grandson is going to be 6 at the end of the month. I love and adore that little boy. My pup is coming back home today never to leave me again and for those of you who know me I love the sun and the sun is shining bright.
I still feel blessed despite some pain and I've made great friends here so I'm blessed in this way as well.

kitra

Posted by @kitra, May 17, 2012

Mom - I just posted but I am new and not sure how this all works. Less than 2 months ago I have half of my left lung removed due to cancer from smoking for 50 years. I am having a VERY hard time giving up the nicotine. I have not had a cigarette for almost 3 months but think about it constantly and do not know if I am able to really give it up. I have a nicatrol inhaler now they issued me and I am addicted to that. So what is one to do?

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roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, May 18, 2012

Hi Kitra,
As a smoker, I feel your pain and distress. I had never been a smoker. I actually began smoking in the job I have been on medical leave from. It was a way to cope I guess but it is a horrible addiction. I began smoking at 34 years of age...go figure. I am proud of you for not smoking in 3 months. Try not to be so hard on yourself because as we know cigarettes have hundreds of poisons in them that the inhaler does not so in essence it's safer. Just take things slowly and when the time is right and you are feeling less stressed you just might give up the inhaler.
Hugs,
Rox

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Jun 4, 2012

How are you Kitra? I hope your feeling less stressed..

karma

Posted by @karma, Jun 9, 2012

I suffer from clinical depression and am unable to take any medication to help me. I am trying cognitive behavioral therapy. I am a people pleaser and figured out that I have been all of my life. I help out a lot of elderly people. I love them dearly but need to be with peeps my own age. I have chronic pain and am on disability due to a Chiari One Malformation that I wasn't diagnosed with until the age of 40. The surgery's purpose is to prevent further neurological progression and was not a "healer" for me. I also have three cervical vertebrae that I need to have fused. I am putting it off for as long as possible, hopefully after I sell my house. I am so afraid. Depression is such an all-consuming kind of disease, and one that others refuse to accept. My parents do not visit me because of it, and my brothers have blown me off. One in particular does not understand real chronic pain. He tells me stuff like, "I have Advil days, too. It's part of being 50 plus." No, it is not. Okay, that's my ten cents worth. I am working hard on my spirituality - mine is reading the Bible and praying. I am also learning to enjoy the simple things in life, such as watching the birds, gardening, etc. KC

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Jun 12, 2012

Hi Karma,
I am sorry for all that you are going through. yes, depression, can be an all-consuming disease but we have to force ourselves to have positive people in our lives and engage in healthy activities so that we can live in peace. Living in peace is often tested because some in this world can be cruel but if we remove ourselves from those elements and distract ourselves a little the good times are worth it. I too enjoy gardening, decorating my home, I love fashion and being around good people.
Being 50+ is not old anymore! However, I understand the decline in the human body which can become worse when we are depressed.
I am sorry that some family has disappointed you. You are not alone in this area either but like I used to tell a loved one many years ago "The Brady Bunch Family really does not exist". Everyone has familial issues and although they can be stressful and hurtful some times a little distance is good.
Continue working on your spirituality, praying and enjoying the simple things that life has to offer.
Hugs,
Rox

china

Posted by @china, Jun 15, 2012

well i am home n luving it. I do miss my bestie but it was 2 much 4me. we talk daily n i think that a little independence will be good 4 her.

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Jun 15, 2012

Glad you're with loved one's

china

Posted by @china, Jun 19, 2012

me2. nothin like it really.

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Jun 19, 2012

I miss having my mom nearby. Thank God for your blessings ...
Hugs
Rox

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Jun 19, 2012

I know you miss your Mum must be hard for you. Always here Piglit

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Jun 19, 2012

Thanks Piglit,
She shared news today that gave me a sense of relief. Her partner of a few years is looking for a home for them two. Now, I can be at peace knowing he'll be around just in case she doesn't feel well. Then, she reported that her pulse has been very high and this needs to be stablelized prior to her procedure.
She was at a training today for her job so at least she's strong enough to work.
I still wish she was closer to me....
Hugs

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Jun 19, 2012

Thanks wonderful news Rox would put your mind at ease

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piglit

Posted by @piglit, Jun 19, 2012

Glad your so happy

china

Posted by @china, Jul 6, 2012

thx

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roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Jun 19, 2012

Good for you!

china

Posted by @china, Jul 6, 2012

awesome 4th of july

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Jul 15, 2012

My moms doogie Daisy passed away at the vet 2 days ago. It's amazing how these little creatures are like family. My mom is devasted but she was told that Daisy passed away in her sleep and it was primarily old age..
I love my mammie and I don't even want to think about her passing...
I hope everyone is well and had a good weekend..
Hugs,
Rox

piglit

Posted by @piglit, Jul 15, 2012

send my love to your Mum. My mum's doggie is 17years old this year. They are so like family. and you can't imagine life without them. A cuddle for Mammie and how's babey lola going? hugs

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Jul 15, 2012

Thanks Piglit,
They are family. Mom has been crying but Daisy was over 15 years old. Now my mom tells me to send her Mammie.. Mammie is my daughter..

china

Posted by @china, Jul 26, 2012

sorry about mommys dog. they r family 2us. well its official. i need to find anohter job. people dont appreciate hard workers and exploit them while the lazy gossip all day

lovinjesus

Posted by @lovinjesus, Jul 26, 2012

I lost a poodle last yr who was almost 17 and I have a poodle now who will be 17 in Sept. and a poodle that just turned 5 in June (2012) It is so horrible to lost them from old age or for any reason. I pray your mother is not grieving to much. Gerri

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roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Aug 6, 2012

Hi Gerri,
Thank you for sharing. My mom is better but she too misses her Daisy whom she loved as a little daughter..

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lovinjesus

Posted by @lovinjesus, Aug 6, 2012

Yes Roxie, I sure know how she feels. My Candy was like a child to me; I was mommy. It's bee a while now since Candy passe daway and I still can't bring myself to look at her little footprint that they molded of her. I'm plannng on making a showdow box for some of her stuff,pictures, footprint, dress, bow, little socks and a toy. I just haven't been able to do it yet. Maybe your mom could consider doing that one day when the pain lessens. I'm glad your mom is feeling better. She will always miss Daisy but the pain will be less as time goes on. My prayers are with your sweet mom.

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roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Aug 11, 2012

Thank You Dear, They are like children. I had two, Baby and Star, and when I left my ex he kept them both.. I visited them for a while...Daisy is their mom and they are only 2 years younger so I fear that one day I will find out that they passed. I was given a new doggie, a westie, for my b-day 3 years ago and she is my love. I cannot imagine anything happening to Baby, Star nor Mammie.. They love us unconditionally...I love how you molded Candies paw print. That's adorable..

lovinjesus

Posted by @lovinjesus, Aug 11, 2012

Yes, Candy dies at the vets office. She was so frail. When she passed one of the girls at the vet asked me if I wanted them to make a paw print and harden it in the furnace (oven, whatever) and I said yes oplease. I got it in the mail 2 days later. it's been almost 2 years and I still happened opend it. I will be ablel to one day I'm sure. Thats when I will make her shadow box. I pray your babies are all well.

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roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Aug 13, 2012

Thank you. I am sure that when you feel ready you will open it. I think it was a lovely tribute.. they are our children..in fact, they sometimes love us more than the ones we brought into this world.
Hugs,
Rox

roxie43

Posted by @roxie43, Sep 13, 2012

How are my friends??? Is everyone being kind to themselves?? Please do so ..okay
Hugs

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