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NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder

Posted by @baczero, Jan 30, 2012

Today, I realized, after doing a lot of research on my own, that my girlfriend of more than 2 1/2 years may have Narcissistic Personality Disorder. I’ve spent the last two years trying to understand why the woman I love acts the way she does. I kept thinking maybe some type of sociopathic tendencies, but that just didn’t seem to jive. I know she’s not just a “bad person”, so as is my nature, I search for answers to explain the things she does. This morning I ran across the term Narcissistic Personality Disorder in my research and just kept reading. It so completely fits her. She had brain surgery some years back on her left temporal lobe, for seizures. I’ve discovered that a possible side affect from that surgery can be things like emotional disconnect and paranoia. Not sure if it could mimic NPD, as well?? Of course I can’t diagnose her, and one of the worst parts of NPD is that it makes it very hard for the person suffering from it to consider that there might be something wrong with them, so getting them to even get checked is a very difficult thing. I would really appreciate any information from anyone who has had experience with NPD, especially if you’ve been diagnosed yourself, or if you had to confront someone who you believed had it.



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Posted by @deliasanderson, Mar 12, 2012

A friend of mine thinks her husband has NPD but I certainly don’t. Now he has never had brain surgery. Did you know her before the surgery and are you comparing. You say she had surgery some yrs back so it doesn’t sound like you knew her before. Relationships are tricky, when there is a lot of trust in a relationship, barriers come down. I would imagine she would leave you if you suggested you felt she had this. If you are having relational difficulties, you might suggest that you go to a counselor together. You will both be equal in the eyes of the therapist so she may respond favorably to this.


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Posted by @mika7, Aug 13, 2012

My husband’s exwife is a Malignant Narcissist. She does evil things to her own children and did to my husband while they were still married. And still tries. I’ve been reading about and researching Narcissism, Borderline Personality Disorder and various mental illnesses and personality disorders for the past 2 1/2 years. I never saw anything about having brain surgery and the possible side affects. So I can’t help you there. But if you think your gf has NPD, then I would keep reading about it. It’s possible that she had this disorder previously as they are very good at hiding their behavior from people until you get close to them. My husband’s exwife’s family all have Narcissism along with other personality disorders as well. They also live as a Cult. It’s very bizarre. If your girlfriend acts this way, then she definately needs to get help. Does she go for periodic checkups because of the surgery? Does she have family you could talk to? Maybe they could shed some light on her behavior before and after the surgery?

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