Hi, I,m Virtuous 69 and originally signed up under the Chronic pain discussion group.My main issue is lack of finances to treat what I have and not being able to do the positive steps that I should be doing. I have Fibro, had mono , occasional CFS, but mainly spinal stenosis, a full back and neck of degenetative disc disease. I am 69 and my husband is,79. I hurt and bedridden with heating pad and Vicodin most of the morning. My husband works 3 days a week in retail, and though he attended a rhumatologist lecture for family members to understand Fibromyalgis, he is virtually no help around the house on his 4 days off. Won’t ever fix himself something to eat if I,m not ready to fix breakfast or lunch. His Fortune 500 retail business cut all grandfathered employees hours, and took away all our employer
Benefits, medical, dental, vision, stock and life insurance leaving us only with Medicare while we scrambled to find secondary insurance instant like AARP. Our finances suddenly hit took bottom, could scarcely pay our space rent on our mobile home. Had to let my once per month housecleaner and once per month gardener go. Our home fell into shambles and my hair started to fall out. Spent two weeks writing up resumes for my husband and we were very aware of age discrimination as he went job hunting. MY spinal issues got progressively worse. We attended a great church and belonged to a wonderful life group that was our family and support. Our church sold to another more modern church painted black, and left over video of preaching from Sat night from the mega mother church. Wonderful friends left our church and so did we in search of good teaching and friendly. We have have felt so alone and advised we need to move out of our high income area in Silicon Valley. My husband needed new glasses, catarac surgery and has lost a vast amount of his hearing, so that he mistakes every thing I say, and we argue all.the time. I can,t bend over to vacuum and tidy up. Our once beautiful older mobile home used to be clean, but is in much need of internal cleaning and repair. It’s trashed. I’ve been given several phone # s of agencies for the aged and it’s a very good pay for services. My husband won’t lift a finger to help, sits on his rocker all day, except to hedge some bushes during nice weather. Refuses to develop outside friendships with other men. There are not enough funds for any simple pleasure. We feel encased in our dark mobile home and Don,t know where to move. Every week another appliance falls apart. But.had great friends myand support system before everyone left us. I know my Redeemer lives, but I can,t take it anymore.