Husband diagnosed with pancreatitic cancer doesn't want treatment

Posted by nyonifara @nyonifara, May 9 10:42am

My husband was diagnosed with pancreatitic cancer 9 months ago, he does not want to be treated, what will happen to him? I'm very worried.

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I'm very sorry to hear that. It's a question best answered by the doctor who diagnosed him, or since it was 9 months ago, maybe a new doctor (or the last doctor with new CT/MRI/PET scans and blood tests to work from).

A lot depends on his age, his overall health, the stage at his diagnosis (and now, if it has spread anywhere), and the type of pancreatic cancer he has, such as PDAC (pancreatic ductal adenocarcinoma), or other types described here: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/pancreatic-cancer/pancreatic-cancer-types

With a little more info, readers here might be able to share some personal experiences, but everyone is different. Even the best doctors can only offer educated guesses.

The side effects of treatment can be harsh *sometimes* (but not always!), depending on the patient. My 85-year old father decided to stop his treatment for cancer (mesothelioma) after 4 months. As hard as that was for me to accept, I saw what it was putting him through. I believe he made the right decision, and I respect that.

I hope and pray that your husband is well informed about all options, and that he is able to share that info with you.

This forum exists in part to support people in your situation, so please feel free to seek input here, and share anything else you can to help us understand your situation in more detail and reply appropriately.

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The statistics presented for pancreatic cancer are so grim esp for stage 4 and side effects listed many. Success found with other forums on this group and right doctor helps us keep going if we are a good candidate and give energy to tolerate side effects.

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@markymarkfl

I'm very sorry to hear that. It's a question best answered by the doctor who diagnosed him, or since it was 9 months ago, maybe a new doctor (or the last doctor with new CT/MRI/PET scans and blood tests to work from).

A lot depends on his age, his overall health, the stage at his diagnosis (and now, if it has spread anywhere), and the type of pancreatic cancer he has, such as PDAC (pancreatic ductal adenocarcinoma), or other types described here: https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/pancreatic-cancer/pancreatic-cancer-types

With a little more info, readers here might be able to share some personal experiences, but everyone is different. Even the best doctors can only offer educated guesses.

The side effects of treatment can be harsh *sometimes* (but not always!), depending on the patient. My 85-year old father decided to stop his treatment for cancer (mesothelioma) after 4 months. As hard as that was for me to accept, I saw what it was putting him through. I believe he made the right decision, and I respect that.

I hope and pray that your husband is well informed about all options, and that he is able to share that info with you.

This forum exists in part to support people in your situation, so please feel free to seek input here, and share anything else you can to help us understand your situation in more detail and reply appropriately.

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I’m an 83 y/o female, diagnosed last year with PC. I educated myself on all options and decided at my age and present medical challenges that I would decline all treatment . As of right now, I have no symptoms and am enjoying every day. I know the future is not good but I know I made the right decision for me. Best wishes

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Everyone is different and depending on your husband’s overall health and age comes in to wanting to treat.
I’m a 58 old male that was diagnosed with stage 4 Açinar PC which is a rare form only found in one percent of PC patients.
This is a rare cancer on the pancreas and been through 45 treats over the two years. I was in good health and made a promise to myself to fight the hardest to beat this awful cancer.
Don’t give up hope as you husband may change his mind.
Sending my heal prayers. 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

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@thawk32

Everyone is different and depending on your husband’s overall health and age comes in to wanting to treat.
I’m a 58 old male that was diagnosed with stage 4 Açinar PC which is a rare form only found in one percent of PC patients.
This is a rare cancer on the pancreas and been through 45 treats over the two years. I was in good health and made a promise to myself to fight the hardest to beat this awful cancer.
Don’t give up hope as you husband may change his mind.
Sending my heal prayers. 🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

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thawk32- I sent you a DM.

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Thanks for the message. I also sent a reply to your DM.

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@brookie82

I’m an 83 y/o female, diagnosed last year with PC. I educated myself on all options and decided at my age and present medical challenges that I would decline all treatment . As of right now, I have no symptoms and am enjoying every day. I know the future is not good but I know I made the right decision for me. Best wishes

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At 83 I would not take treatment either.I'm 70 and would not of taken treatment but my 10 yr old grandaughter's mother is not in her life much so she relies on me.I had cancer before and knew how horrible treatment is .With no hope of cure only pallative treatment.I am looking for a clinical trial because I know that is my only hope for a possible cure.My Dr.isn't much help through this.I think shes more interested in keeping me there for the money,at least thats how I feel.I glad you are enjoying your life and pray it continues forever.

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Thanks for understanding.

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@patel

The statistics presented for pancreatic cancer are so grim esp for stage 4 and side effects listed many. Success found with other forums on this group and right doctor helps us keep going if we are a good candidate and give energy to tolerate side effects.

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My husband is 46yrs old and has high BP, the problem is that he is always talking about death and I am depressed

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I don't know anything about cancer and I don't know what to say to him, what are the right words to say to him?

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