My Ex-partner has prostate cancer. How do I respond to him?

let him go. You don't need the stress. It's sometimes hard but learn to say NO.

While I wouldn't wish this disease on my worst enemy, 10 years is half a generation. Not your job to fix his issues. If you're undecided and feel you should do something, maybe point him to a support group either here or elsewhere. Oh...and if Jay Hall is your real name, he's probably going to find you here anyway.

that might be a question for Dr. Phil.

Thanks everyone for the responses I'm going to reply to him and say that he needs to find a support group, or therapist that will work with him because I'm just not the person he needs to be seeking out for this.

Point him at this forum and let him find out information he may need to know, without needing to see you. Definitely sounds like he wants to get some type of relationship back together.

Put on your own oxygen mask before assisting other passengers.

@jayhall But make sure to change your handle and/or prifile pic if they may tell him your identity.

@northoftheborder This. Totally this.

Jay, you are very giving and sweet person and I know how hard it is to make boundaries and say "no" to others but if he ever did dump his BS on you (as you stated), you really need to stay away from him. You have too much on your plate already < 3

Just do as you wisely decided to do (direct him where to go and how to find info and stay very short in responding). I agree with others, there are other places than this one here where he can find support and advice. No need for you to start feeling uncomfortable coming to this place by bringing him here also. TONS of other places out-there.

My whole life I had trouble saying "no" to others and when I turned 50 I made a resolution to start saying NO and I did ! What a relief !!!! I wasted soooo much of my energy, resources, money, time and even love on undeserving people - not once after my 50th birthday : )))) and I am very proud of that ; ).

You gave him hope when you said you would consider his request. A firm I have decided to not reopen that door again should do it along not taking his calls afterwards.