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Depression burst on my after extended pressureful work for long with little rest in 2007. Ever since I am drugs. My question, is depression permanent?
I was in a toxic marrige once. As soon as yhe divorce was over I was free and it felt wonderful. Theres more to the story if you would like to hear it. Let me know if you do.
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I would love to learn more. Thanks. Maria.
My ex was a big gas lighter back in the early 80's. He kept me tore up over everything most of the time when I was married to him. We were together 12 years. When I look back on it now I think of how big of a fool I was for staying with him. Before I left him I felt like I had no one to turn to. We moved closer to where my family lived and I got out of the marriage that way. A year after the divorce was final I moved myself and my 3 children 30 minutes away from everybody I knew. I had a job already set up before we moved. I worked as a CNA for 4 years while raising my kids. I got tired of that work and went on unemployment. I studied for my GED and finally got brave enough to take the test and passed the first time. After that I enrolled in a college. I got accepted but it took me 8 years to complete my degree. I supported myself and my family with Pell grants and student loans. I had boyfriends along the way but no one would make a commitment to me. While I was attending college I tried working at the local Walgreens as well. One day I got the idea to sign up on E-harmony. My daughters were older and more responsible so I had more free time to pursue a relationship. I met a great guy in 2007 but I got sick and started having hallucinations His name is Bob and he started helping me pay my bills. I was 3 months behind with my house payments. He moved in with me in July of 2008. He explained to me that I could possibly have a mental illness because of the auditory hallucinations I was having. I didn’t have an easy time growing up. My father would tell me to shut up when I was learning how to talk and I didn’t develop normally. He was an abusive alcoholic and I lived in fear daily growing up. I started going to therapy in Aug 2008 and went on meds for schizoaffective disorder. It took many years for me to find the right combination of drugs to relieve the voices in my head. My kids are grown of course. I only have one grandchild and she will be 18 in Oct. My son made me a grandma at 38. I’m in a good place in my life at the moment.
I'm scared to death to get a divorce. We would still be living under the same roof due to financial reasons. Just want that divorce paper in my hands. Maria.
Everything is going to be allright.I went through that with my ex. He atarted attacking me one night. I was just so sick and tired of the way he had been treating me. When he finished beating me i called the cops and they took him away for the night. I found out later that he was on cocaine.The place we lived was payed for.He filed for divorce first. Me and the kids moved in with my sister and brother in law.for a while.Something inside of my thought he was bluffing about the divorce so I got an attourny through legal aid and had him served with divorce papers. I wanted to be rid of him once and for all times.
@mjpg2013 Bless Your heart and how brave. My husband was verbally abusive when our kids were growing up, to the kids and to me. I didn't know about verbal abuse and had no idea. He was really hard on our son, who is Bipolar 1, he was mentally ill growing up, but he never told us. We have no contact with him or his family, so I feel like I've lost a granddaughter. My counselor said most of it is from him being bipolar. Part of it is his wife. She's controlling him, but also taking care of him. He's a professor, but can't teach because of his bipolar.
Good god, does anything effing work? It seems like I hit a wall every time I have hope for something. I really don't know what to do anymore.
@kelster69 I feel the same way you do and how frustrating, energy draining. My next step is to try MM ( medical marijuana) for I, too, don't know what to do or where else to go for help. Met with someone yesterday to start application process and wait 30 days for card. Am hoping to find PTSD therapist because lots of old trauma coming up for me during COVID.
Two of my kids are bipolar. My ex only abused me. He is a good father for the most part although he never payed me a dime in child support.
My middle daughter and I talk a lot but my son and youngest daughter arent that close. I try to wait for them to contact me.
How could your so have told you, he didnt know he was different
@mjpg2013 My husband was raised with a verbal abusive dad, and uncle. They were farmers. He was driving tractors at age 10. He doesn't know what verbal abuse is or does now believe he does it. He's better now, but does lose his patients sometimes, but he was very verbal abusive to our 2 children and me as they grew up. My daughter asked me why I didn't divorce him. I told her I didn't know what was going on. She is ok now, by going to a special group at a church. So she has forgiven him. But, my son is bipolar 1 and we can't have any contact with them. His wife is great to help him, but I think she's the one mainly keeping him away from us. He is very smart and has his PHD, but can't teach because of his bipolar 1 and has it bad. Most of it is from the Bipolar 1 the reason we have no contact, but part is the way he was treated. He knew as a child he had mental illness, but didn't tell us. They have a 9 year old daughter, my only grandchild. If she's at her grandma's in Chicago she can skype with us, but they live in NYC. I have to mail all things for Marlowe to the Grandmother in Chicago and she forwards it to her. I haven't seen her since she was 3, but I do get pictures from the other grandmother. So sorry about you not having contact with some of your kids. Have you tried to contact them? It's hard, but all I can do is pray.
I'm sorry if I led you to believe I don't have contact with my kids. My son lost his license a few years ago and doesnt drive a lot. My middle daughter told me my son got a new cell phone number but he hasnt gave it to me yet. Hes probably busy working and sleeping most of the time.My youngest daughter works for the local post office or USPS.Her work hours are spiratic and long. One day she may get off at noon or have to work untill after 5 pm. She just moved into a house with her new boyfriend, so she is busy with her own life.I got to go to a new restaurant with my middle daughter and grandaughter not that long ago.So I see them a lot through out the year. We always get together during the holidays and have a meal together.
Thanks. I need to get a legal aid lawyer but am so depressed I can't concentrate on what he'd be saying! I have no one to help me. Maria.
Keep in touch with me and let me know what I can help you with. I will see what I can find out for you and if there is anything I can help you with I will let you know.
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