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Depression burst on my after extended pressureful work for long with little rest in 2007. Ever since I am drugs. My question, is depression permanent?
@rollinsk I'm not a psychiatrist, you need to ask him if it lasts forever. With me mine comes and goes. I have situational things that can set mine off. I am on Lexapro and Lamictal, which usually keeps me ok. But, mental illness runs in our family. My mom took her life at age 69. Many of the rest of my family have some type of mental illness. I had to give up my 14 year old very healthy dog, because I had a 9 hour fusion surgery on my back from T-10 to my pelvis and I couldn't take care of her anymore. She's at a good place now. But, I cry every day I miss her so much. I am still recovering from my big surgery and will be for a long time. I can't bend, twist or lift anything too heavy. They started me on Lyrical for some sharp nerve pain in my feet. It did help, but also made me very depressed. So does mental illness stay with you for all your life, I don't know, but I hate it. I'm worse in the morning, but now that I'm getting off of Lyrica I should improve. You will be in my thoughts.
Good god, does anything effing work? It seems like I hit a wall every time I have hope for something. I really don't know what to do anymore.
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Dom't give up, I'm still trying to find the right psych and meds. I feel each step I'm a little closer. Keep going
Some meds work for some people. What has helped me most is behavior change- on my part. CBT. DBT. Trauma recovery. My husband died in 2012 but the marriage was toxic. In september 2018 the court granted my legal last name change. I now have my paternal grandmothers maiden name. I am finally on a path to be out of debt except for my car for good. I changed my lifestyle too. I learned we have set up to fail in many ways so I got help to set myself up for success. I take venlafaxine 75mg Er daily only for depression anxiety. I know my triggers. I am not afraid to say no. Or yes to the right things.
Not always. Sometimes people just have episodes of depression that come and go. Others have a chronic condition. Because the disease of depression causes changes in the brain, it can become chronic if your situation doesn't change. You appear to have a stressful career problem. It may be beneficial to find something less taxing, even if you have to give up some income. You can't put a price on feeling well. I've been on medication for decades and it is a chronic condition in my life. But I could have even worse problems to deal with, and thank God, there are
some very helpful meds out there. Sometimes it takes a while to find the one that best suits you particular chemistry. Best wishes.
I'm in a toxic marriage. I 've been wanting to get out for the last 6 years but can't live in a big city by myself. My siblings in my home town have abandon me. I'm on seraquel, Lamictal, and Viibryd. Trying to taper off the Kolonopin. My depression and OCD are genetic and situational. Just want to get out of this house and date again. That always lifts my spirits. Has anyone else experienced a separation a good thing for your depression? Maria.
@mariajean03 Yes, I left a marriage that was toxic, and it helped my depression a great deal. It was not easy; I won't lie and say it was. But my peace of mind was uppermost to save. I did it on my own, with no help from anyone. My ex made the claim there was "no way" I would be successful, which seemed to give me even more incentive to prove him wrong.
I was in a toxic marrige once. As soon as yhe divorce was over I was free and it felt wonderful. Theres more to the story if you would like to hear it. Let me know if you do.
I am in a toxic marriage as well. We have finally agreed on a divorce and I feel a lot better. Every day is still a fight with her and she is playing games with the kids but at least I see a light at the end of the tunnel. Try to reach out to your family. I don't know the why's of their abandoning you but maybe it is part of the depression and maybe because of your spouse. Maybe they will be there for you if you reach out and let them know what is happening?
@mariajean03 I was married for 18 yrs and would say the last ten years were the worst for I didn't know him anymore with his drinking nor did I know myself. I even was hospitalized, but when I could think clearly again I made a list of what I needed to do to proceed with the divorce and keep me safe. I also had the help of a good therapist to help keep me focused and grounded. Once I was sure in my head about the divorce I was able to move forward.
@marjou I am so sorry about the fighting. I'm glad you are getting a divorce, but it's very hard. Come people say it's like going through a death. May you find peace and take care of yourself.
@mariajean03 Hi Maria, I'm sorry you are struggling. You have not gotten a divorce yet? Get brave and do it. Then you can start dating. I'm on Klonopin and usually just take it at night to help me sleep. I'm also on Lamictal and Lexapro. I was really fine until 2 months ago I had a 9 hour fusion back surgery from T-10 to my pelvis. Now I have been depressed and some anxiety. It's worse in the morning when I first get up and then I get better. Mine is also genetic and situational. My mom took her life at age 69. I'm going to be turning 69 on Friday. She was Manic Depressive or they call it Bipolar 1 now. My son has Bipolar 1 and is a professor, but cannot teach because of the mental illness.
Where do you live?. We live in a suburb of Des Moines, Iowa. Do you have some friends that could help you? I know what it's like having siblings having no contact. My son, his wife, and my precious granddaughter. We have no contact with them. Part of it is my son's wife and part of it is the bipolar 1. His dad was verbally abusive to both of out children. My daughter went to a church that had groups that helped her forgive him. I am so sorry they have abandon you. What is the reason? Do you know?
I'm pretty lucky, there other grandmother, who lives in Chicago, sends me pictures of Marlowe and if they are visiting there she lets Marlowe skype with us, but they are not going there this summer, so I won't be able to skype with Marlowe. My son's wife is also a professor and they live in NYC and she does research and teaches.
I'm sorry I can't help you more, but I do understand how much you must hurt. Be strong.
We live in Des Moines also! He's got me down so much I tried ECT's. How awful that was. I'm working on a lawyer but can't afford to move out. So sad. Maria. Maybe we could meet. I don't drive but live close to Christ the King on 9th. I can get there. Maria.
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