Lost a loved one to murder

Posted by Viv @viv, May 14, 2012

I lost the love of my life to murder almost 20 years ago. Is there anyone out there that can relate at all? I just wish I could find someone that can relate to what I have experienced. Tim was the love of my life; my soul mate. I believe I had been born to love him and did not believe I could survive without him. My Dad died suddenly less than a year after Tim was murdered so I feel that compounded the situation. No closure; no acceptance. Still wish he was here. Thank you.

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LizKat | @lizkat | May 14, 2012

Hi Viv
I am so sorry for your loss.
Just lending you my support
LizKat

Viv | @viv | May 14, 2012

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Thank you.

Joe Hamilton | @joehamilton | May 15, 2012

Sorry to hear about your loss Viv, I have not experienced what you have been through, but my mom just passed away three weeks ago at the age of 56. She had lung cancer and I'm so lost without her, she was my best friend, my mother and my kids grandmother. I just wish the pain would go away. Thank you for posting.

Roxie43 | @roxie43 | May 15, 2012

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Hello Viv,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I have never lost a love one to murder but my daughters father lost his favorite cousin to a murder. Stabbed to death. I can still remember accompanying him to the wake. I think that you're amazing that still til this day you still feel so much love. Any loss of life, especially unexpected, can stir up so many unresolved feelings. I hope that you are going to a survivors group because it sounds like you could benefit from being with others whom have lost a loved one in such a tragic way.
I'll keep you in my thoughts and check in daily if you need me and the other wonderful members.
Sincerely,
Roxie

China | @china | May 15, 2012

OMG sorry. came 2 the right place 🙂

piglit | @piglit | May 15, 2012

Hi Viv. I',m sorry for what youv'e been through and for your loss. Always here if you need me Piglit

Roxie43 | @roxie43 | May 15, 2012

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Are you ok Viv?
Rox

Bettyann | @bettyann | May 17, 2012

Dear Viv,
I am very sorry for what you have gone through, but you really need to resolve this problem. I feel certain that Tim would NOT want to have been grieving all these years. Most of us have lost loved ones through ways that are MOST difficult to accept...but you have to remember that Tim was enveloped in love and freedom in his soul and would WANT you to get on with your life and enjoy yourself...Live, Love, and Laugh. Those on the Other Side are not flattered or happy about our being miserable on THIS side...I really feel that you would benefit with counseling...You are going to have to be WILLING to let go of feelings that have become addictive and habitual. Please believe me ... I do not mean to sound 'mean'... but in order to get past things, one has to own the truth of what is going on inside of us. Even soulmates are still individuals... even though you may not be convinced of this. Please, please get counseling...after 20 yrs of refusing to let go, I think you know that this has become a necessity. You DESERVE to have peace and joy in your life. IF YOU WANT TO. You are going to have to WANT to before you can take even the first of any successful steps. We ALL wish you well, I am sure you know that. Good luck.