Recently I was contacted by my cousins best friend who is very concerned for her well being, aparently my cousin has been sending strange messages, flaking on plans and just acting out of character. After a 2 hour discussion on the phone I began to look back over the past 5 - 6 years and started putting things together, my cousin taking pain pills (for fun), telling me she had taken some from her moms house, every time we are supposed to get together I always get a message right before asking me if I have any pain pills I can spare because she's always got a reason she's in pain and can't get her perscription filled, either her doctor is on vacation or something. I actually had to buy a safe to lock up my medications because when she came to visit I noticed I had pills missing. I guess I didn't realize she had a problem until recently, she wrecked her car, hit a telephone pole and passed out, lucky for her, her husband showed up and talked with the police or she would have been taken to jail. We've decided we love her too much not to tell her we think she has a problem and offer to get her help, she has a 15 year old son we are concerned about too. Does anyone have any adivse on how to go about having this conversation, were so afraid she's going to tell us she doesn't have a problem and to "#%$#" off and cut us out of her life, shes already ruined her relationship with her parents and we don't want her to feel like were attacking her and are so afraid that's the way she will see it. I'm just at a loss but know I need to address this because I'm so afraid of losing her....Any advise would be greatly appreciated!