I am a female in my mid forties who has an ileostomy due to ulcerative colitis. I had several failed surgeries to attempt to have a j-pouch and a BCIR. I am hoping to find other females with ileostomies so we could share our experiences and how you deal with the ostomy on a daily basis. I hate having the ostomy but need to learn to adjust to it as I'm not sure I am a candidate to attempt a continent ostomy again. I have been out of the hospital for six months which is the longest time span I have had between hospital admissions in four years so the ostomy is doing its job....BUT I would love to be able to be happy with the ostomy I just can't quite get there mentally.....anyone able to relate to my situation???