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@johnhans I am sorry to hear of the difficulty you are having with depression and the isolating effects of health problems. Transportation is a serous problems for seniors. Is there any senior transportation in your vicinity? What about NAMI support groups? If these are not possible, you might try some “book-therapy.” Do some reading by authors who specialize in depression. David Burns comes to mind as one author who writes about changing your thoughts so that your mood will change. Let’s hear what some others are reading, Can you suggest some authors or books about dealing with depression, @georgette12 @jimhd @johnjames @rspaulling @safetyshield?
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NAMI is not available where my local paratransit service goes. My depression and anxiety is inherited–has run in the family for generations–but the frustrations of old age problems has increased it. My local library has a very long walkway into it so it makes it hard for me to get to it and they do not deliver specific books. I can always check e-books but the last I looked the program they used made the type too small for me to read and there was not a setting to adjust size of type. Just some of the frustrations of old age.
I am having a hard time adjusting to major depression and the problems of senior living. I also have neuropathy which makes it hard for me to walk and impossible to drive. This cuts me off from social activities and leaves me isolated. I am feeling increasingly frustrated and highly agitated and irritable. After a lifetime of depression that was at least partially controllable, now it is just getting worse and nothing works on me. When I do go out with paratransit I get in arguments with others which makes me want to stay home and never go out. I find the local hospitals here in Minnesota to be not worth much in treating depression, just shove out the door to get the next person in. Only Mayo is rated good, but I have no way of getting there since I do not drive and I do not know if my insurance is even accepted there. Is this what senior life is like for the mentally ill? There are no local services for me. I have checked.
I am so sorry you are having so much trouble. What really helped me was an Serequel. It helped my depression and anxiety plus you get a great nights sleep on it.
I am lucky as I live about an hour from Boston which has the best doctors in the world. I used to go to the Bipolar clinic but I changed doctors so that now I’m only 10 miles from my new doctor. Although Boston was only an hour away it always took at least a couple of hours to get there as the traffic was so bad. Anyway I got the best treatment anyone could get.
I hope somehow you can find the help you need, don’t give up, there has got to be a decent doctor somewhere near you.
My service dog is with me every Sunday at church, and many people know she’s a psychiatric service dog. I’ve never felt any hostility or negativity. The church I used to go to were very accepting, and were really sad when we changed to another church. The only reason we left was that the pastor didn’t believe in psychology or psychiatry, and made me feel wrongly judged. I think the church is growing up in its misperceptions of mental illness. I am a retired minister, and have felt the stigma firsthand. It’s unfortunate, because that’s certainly not what Jesus modeled.
I just changed my profile picture to a colored pencil drawing made of my previous service dog, Barnabas, who died a year ago.
Scientology is a so called religion started by L Ron Hubbard. He wrote Dianetics which is supposed to explain the whole religion (cult). I read the book years ago. The guy is a nut case and I can’t figure out how anyone can believe what he exposes. Tom Cruise is a major player in this cult. Go to youtube and put his name in and Scientology it’s an eye opener.
Really sorry my friend- he is not correct- but I would bet the people don’t feel that way. But sometimes- as you said, it’s better to move on to a group of Christians who put people first as the Lord says to do. JJAMES
If you lived in the same place I do, I’d be happy to help you with transportation. Is there a senior center where you live? I have a great list of benefits, providers and services for seniors, such as transportation, which is one of the things I expect to need help with some day. The list might be available at a senior center, Chamber of Commerce, hospital, county services, mental health or? How about a friend or relative who would read to you.
Thanks, John. I’m sorry for all the issues you face. I think that for some people, as they get older, they are able to enjoy travel, and enjoy camping, hiking, biking, and all kinds of activities. Unfortunately, we aren’t in that segment of society, are we.
I know that my father had depression, and I’m pretty sure his mother did, as well, and probably his father. My mom was quite depressed the last couple of years of her life. Some of my siblings deal with it, too. So, I guess I shouldn’t be surprised that I do. Healing seems elusive. I feel ok sometimes, even laugh at things – I didn’t laugh for a long time – but just thinking of the word depression, or some other word or event, makes me feel sad immediately in my gut. I feel like a real burden on my wife, who’s never experienced depression. These thoughts and others stir up thoughts of suicide, of being very tired of life. All of this makes me realize that I probably need to find a therapist soon, something I am pursuing.
Gotta go to bed. God bless and keep you, John. Peace be with you.
@johnjames. Just a quick note before I go to bed. I also have peripheral neuropathy, often making it painful to walk. I’m thankful for the handicap placard that saves me a few steps. Sometimes I hurt when driving, but living out in the country means I can use cruise control a lot of the time. Prescription Lidocaine cream gives temporary relief sometimes. I surely wished I had something when we drove in October, ’15, from Oregon to our daughter’s in Boston, via a sister’s home in St. Paul, and then on the way home, via my other sister’s home near Gettysburg, and our son’s in Indianapolis. That was a wonderful trip, but horribly painful. I drove barefoot, with my feet on a pillow, trying to ease the pain. But we have good memories and lots of pictures.
@jimhd Thanks, Jim. for offering your perspective. You have offered a lot of good practical suggestions to all of us (especially the use of Lidocaine cream, cruise control when driving long distances, etc.). Your attitude is also an example to us when you express the good memories you have from an experience that was clouded by pain and difficulties. You have learned how to make the most of life, in spite of health difficulties and that is invaluable. Teresa
These people are supposed to be Christians? I’d try another church if I were you and don’t tell anyone about your background.
I do not go to church but I had plenty of it when I was a child, enough to make me not want to ever go to church again.
My family and close friends know that I am Bipolar and I never tell anyone else. I thought the bias was lifting against people with mental illnesses but I guess not.
Good luck and let us know how it goes.
Thank you. God bless you!
Most suicides are from undiagnosed mental illness. Ask God to show you the root cause of why you feel guilt.
Ron Hubbard started out as a science fiction writer. Even his fellow science fiction writers wonder why he would make up his own religion.
Do you have or have you had a passion for anything like music, writing, or art? Maybe redirect your mind to something you really like would work.
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