I've lost everything - got into the painkiller thing and got addicted

Posted by rgreer @rgreer, Sep 8, 2012

Ineed help so much,I lost everything that has ment anything to me.Iam 63 years I was married for 35 years I acidently got into the painkiller thing and got addicted.I took care of my mother till she died,and by my own fault ,and one day took a pill of hers,well the rest is history.cause of the drugs I lost it all my job my wife my friends.Ilove my wife more than life it self,but she will have nothing to do with me.We have 3 girls together.we had it all I just can’t go on I can not stand to see her with someone else,Please some one help me,or talk to me,before I do some thing. Rick

Please know others, like a friend of mine, have suffered the same. She is alone but is getting more care from her friends. All will be well.

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Hi Rgreer, were you able to get off the pills? If not, that’s the first thing you have to do. There is a lot of help out there for you. You have to decide to find it and go for it! I’ve been at a similar place; however, when I realized I was starting to like that pain killer I decided to stop it and by the Grace of God I did it by myself. But I was only taking that pill about 3 weeks so it was much easier than if I’d been taking it overtime. Go for the help!!!! It’s all out there, whatever the help you may need…..family counseling/addiction help, etc. I wish you the best but life will go on, with or without you so don’t do anything stupid as your life is meaningfull and worth living and fighting for! So fight!!

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Rick two sources outside of Mayo that may help you To speak with someone directly at this location, please call 217-726-6611 their address is: 3050 Montvale Dr. Springfield, IL 62704 and
Family Guidance Centers at Triangle Center at (217) 544-9858. I agree with other posts the best treatment has a spiritual approach and I found a great program a little out of your way that is certainly worth a call Nest at number on their website 877-504-3306 http://www.bestdrugrehabilitation.com/treatment-phases/faith-based-recovery/

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Dearest Rgreer…I felt pain as I read your post. I am 59, married for 33 years, 3 kids, and multiple mental disabilities. I strongly encourage you to address one problem at a time with a qualified physician, a family practice person can guide your health issues and from there you’ll get referrals as you tackle one problem at a time. Soon one problem begins to address the whole picture and you’ll begin to understand where you start and the disorders begin. This in itself will help you on your road to recovery. I haven’t given the support or advice I can after living with and being treated for major depressive disorder, psychosis, bipolar disorder, agoraphobia, and chronic isolation. I use multiple sources (our county MH clinic, a psychiatrist, and will see a new fam pract. physician this week. I hope together they can help me. Last March I had 13 ect treatments, but that’s another story. I’m not making any sort of recommendation one way or another but “think” I feel better. Still lonely, sad, and difficult to write about myself. Keep praying, I will pray for you, and I hope some of this made sense. Good luck.

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Rgreer, I’m not sure how this works but my name should appear: oplifetrials on the following reply. Hope I get better at this and again, take care of yourself.

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Dear Rick,

It is indeed sad to hear what you have gone through, but please remember that your life is much more important than what you are thinking right now. I’m sure things will turn out absolutely fine going forward. You just need to take some time off from your thoughts and start engaging in other activities. Travel, watch movies, take a break and stop overthinking about problems. You can also try online counselling and you will start feeling better in no time…

Hope to see you smiling soon.

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@bonjugal

Dear Rick,

It is indeed sad to hear what you have gone through, but please remember that your life is much more important than what you are thinking right now. I’m sure things will turn out absolutely fine going forward. You just need to take some time off from your thoughts and start engaging in other activities. Travel, watch movies, take a break and stop overthinking about problems. You can also try online counselling and you will start feeling better in no time…

Hope to see you smiling soon.

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Welcome to Connect, @bonjugal. We look forward to getting to know you. Can you tell us a bit about yourself?

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@bonjugal

Dear Rick,

It is indeed sad to hear what you have gone through, but please remember that your life is much more important than what you are thinking right now. I’m sure things will turn out absolutely fine going forward. You just need to take some time off from your thoughts and start engaging in other activities. Travel, watch movies, take a break and stop overthinking about problems. You can also try online counselling and you will start feeling better in no time…

Hope to see you smiling soon.

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I’m a healthcare professional from India. I’m working with a small team here to improve the quality & accessibility of healthcare by driving awareness.

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@bonjugal

Dear Rick,

It is indeed sad to hear what you have gone through, but please remember that your life is much more important than what you are thinking right now. I’m sure things will turn out absolutely fine going forward. You just need to take some time off from your thoughts and start engaging in other activities. Travel, watch movies, take a break and stop overthinking about problems. You can also try online counselling and you will start feeling better in no time…

Hope to see you smiling soon.

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How wonderful, @bonjugal! I’m one of the moderators on Connect, and I too, am originally from India. Could you tell us what brought you to Connect?

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@bonjugal

Dear Rick,

It is indeed sad to hear what you have gone through, but please remember that your life is much more important than what you are thinking right now. I’m sure things will turn out absolutely fine going forward. You just need to take some time off from your thoughts and start engaging in other activities. Travel, watch movies, take a break and stop overthinking about problems. You can also try online counselling and you will start feeling better in no time…

Hope to see you smiling soon.

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Well I’ve heard a lot about Mayo clinic in United states from many people. I am looking to understand the concept of health forums, because we still see a large no. of indian patients shying away from discussing their health problems and especially where stigma is attached like mental health & sexual health. Also, I feel more connected with the patients after looking at their problems as we’ve been seeing very similar cases.
You can have a look at my website https://justdoc.com and I’ll appreciate if you can share feedback.

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You have not lost everything. You still have you. You can re-build from this knowledge.

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@tabi

You have not lost everything. You still have you. You can re-build from this knowledge.

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Very true @tabi Knowledge is a great asset that can help even in bad times

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Hi …. Rick, as the others have said, you need help kicking this addiction. But, right now if you feel unsafe and feel you may hurt yourself, get to the ER immediately. They will keep you safe, help you with medication and can get you started on the road to recovery from the addiction. Do not do anything to yourself …… either go to the ER, call a friend to take you (I had to do that one time), go somewhere where you are safe.
abby

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My name is Janine…So sorry to hear you ‘re in an awful state. Having been in a marriage to an alcoholic for 23 years, I know well how your wife feels. We’re definately a miracle couple… In 1990 to 1994 my job was Substance Abuse Tech. in the Connecticut Parkside Lodge (Detox Unit) Rehabilitation Facility. Addiction is a real problem, it doesn’t just go away because it’s unwanted. Do yourself and your family the biggest favor, go to Narcotics Annonymous for help. If you can’ t find any NA Meetings, go to Alcoholics Annonymous. The only difference between the two is the substance you’re hooked on. Since it IS a Disease, you’ll need all the help and support you can find. The people in your group understand better than anyone else ever could. Let them help you, like you used to help your Mom.

The smartest thing would be to get free of any situation which encourages using your drug (or alcohol….don’t make the mistake of switching addictions.)
Life is lived one minute, one hour, one day at a time…..get with a 12 Step Program, regular NA Meetings, and social support. It’s been my opinion that we eat too much, or drink too much, or do watever we do too much to ” fix” our feelings and comfort ourselves. But that isn’t really a solution, it’s the opposite. If you are sure your’e miserable and want to get your life back….Do the meetings, 12 Steps, And Go To a Rehab so they can help you get off the narcotics. The only way you can beat addiction is with 100% Commitment. COMMITMENT to that Goal. In the process, you will find your answers. If it’s worth having, it’s worth fighting for…..It’s all about Choices. Bad one take us where we don’t want to go! So make some Good ones! I watched the pain my husband’s alcoholism inflicted on his son (and parents, and me)…. quit for your family and yourself.
CALL NARCOTICS ANNONYMOUS. They will help you get it together. GOOD LUCK !!!! It is good you want to stop using, that is what it takes to do it. Some people never want to stop. Your’e on the way to recovery, just take the next step, a phone call to NA. If u can’t find NA ‘s telephone get AA’s, they will be able to get NA’s number for you. Reaching out is the first step !!!!

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