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intermittent explosive disorder

Posted by @teal in Mental Health, Jul 24, 2012

Hi, I really need an unbiased opinion. I have a 43 year old son who was diagnosed with IED and bi-polar about 6 years ago. Hes never been able to hold a job for long and has been in prison more than once because of his violent temper, battery charges and drug charges. And is currently serving a 4 year sentence for domestic. This time his wife has filed for a divorce. Our whole family has endured verbal and at times physical abuse to the point that now his siblings wont have anything to do with him. And no matter how much he tries to convince me that hes a changed person, I am not convinced. I am 63 years old and my husband has alot of medical problems right now. The bottom line is I'm afraid of him and I don't trust him. So...I have refused to let him parole to my house. Now, he says family should stick together unconditionally and is trying to through a quilt trip on me. He will have to parole to a halfway house because he has burnt his bridges every where. He says he should just end it all. And yes I do feel badly but all the family says I should not feel bad or quilty...enough is enough! Any advise or opinions would be appriciated.

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Posted by @ta2dmom, Aug 14, 2012

I'm sorry I don't have any answers for you but I have a 19 year old with the same diagnosis. I think if you're afraid of your son, you should not let him stay with you. I never thought I'd be afraid of my own son, but I am also afraid. My son is on medication and has not had an outburst in several weeks but I know (and your story has confirmed) that this will be a lifetime struggle. Is there any way your son would consider treatment? If he's making an honest effort (counseling, medication, staying out of trouble) maybe your relationship can be mended but I still would not advise letting him stay with you. My thoughts are with you.

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