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I'm a mother of a 9 yr old girl who they can't " diagnose

Posted by @sandra70 in Mental Health, May 11, 2012

Hi everyone, thankyou for reading my post. My 19 yr old daughter has been too put it midly a handful for the last 6 years, she has just been admitted for the 3rd time to a psychiatric unit I took her to the GP yesterday who told me she's always fine when I see her, No she doesnt need a referal to Mental Health no she doesnt need medication, even after she stated she lied her way out of care lat time after 12hrs.
Whats her symptoms?
High/low in an instant can be laughing one minute then verbally abusive the next

inappropriate behaviour and reactions to situations eg can come into a crowded room and disclose something private and facebook

Total disregard to authority or rules abusive to police and anyone who says
something she doesn't agree to

doesn't appear to have the "gut" feeling you know the feeling you get when something doesn't feel right this put her in dangerous situations and has even resulted in her being raped

Unable to maintain friendships and she always needs a boyfriend a is in love within a day

Yu can talk to her bout changing her situation then the following day its the same all over again

I believe there is a personality disorder but cant get her assessed I had a MH worker tell me today that it is in the way I speak to her because I do challenge her and don't just give in

This is so heartbreaking to see because I cant help her and to her I am only mum when she wants something which is limited because I don't say yes just to keep her happy

I have to take a hard line because she is 1 of 4 (by the way her older brother isn't talking to me because I made a comment to his partner after the rape due to the fact her and my mother inlaw both knew and nether told my husband or myself cause she didn't want to yet guess who it was left to take her 100miles for testing) 2nd oldest I have to take into consideration her actions on my younger children because it has caused emotional stress and bullying in the school yard

I know this may read as all about me but I am just at a loss what to do and how much more I can do I wold like to hear about similar experiences and how you coped in supporting your child your family and yourself

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Posted by @sandra70, May 11, 2012

SORRY I"M NEW TO THIS SHOULD BE 19 I reposted and dont know how to delete


Posted by @piglit, May 11, 2012

Hi I hope that you can get a good assessment for your daughter and that you get answers soon Maybe something has occured to trigger off so many chain of events for her. I have worked and taught children with behavioural issues and there is usually always something behind the behaviour. Take care and here if you need just to talk Piglit


Posted by @sandra70, May 11, 2012

Hi Pilgit
I have asked myself the same thing has something triggered this and in reflection I have tried to always treat my kids the same she has grown up in a stable loving safe home, as i was a victim of child sexual abuse I have ensured my children were kept safe. I just dont know why, 3 years ago she was diagnosed with a language disorder but then another psych said she was fine and there is no disorder


Posted by @piglit, May 11, 2012

Hi sandra you need to get a further assessment done from another specialist in regards to your daughters language disorder. I tnever hurts my dear to get a second opinion Let me know how things go. With language problems it can cause issues with self esteem , confidence . Keep in touch piglit


Posted by @roxie43, May 12, 2012

Hello Sandra,
Thank you for sharing your concerns with us. As a mother of three adult young women I feel your pain. Nineteen can be challenging because she's not a little girl anymore and she's not a woman either. It's a time that can definitely be stressful for all involved. Developmental stages can some times be impacted by a host of issues. Is she involved in any self injurious behaviors?
I would have to agree with my friends that a comprehensive assessment is needed in order for you to get feedback as to how best help your daughter. Does she want help would be another question? At nineteen, you may be spinning your wheels if she cannot see that she has a problem that needs fixing.
Try to set limits consistently and talk to her about your love for her and discuss concerns. Ask her if she feels in anyway like she's unstable and offer support. It's a tricky age but if you feel that she's a danger to herself or others call 911 ASAP.
Take care,

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