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I have been on antidepressants for a year and a half
My life right now is very stressful financial problems,
Work related problems, and marriage problems . Can someone relate
To my situation?
I am sure most of us can relate to at least some of your problems. You are on anti-depressants, so that means you are aware of a problem and have sought help for it. This is a huge step forward in dealing with anything brain related. If things seems unbearable you might go back to your doctor and talk with him or her about changing your treatment plan. Another very helpful thing you could do is start counseling for yourself, and your marriage. Find a counselor who does Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (basically it teaches you to identify unhelpful thought patterns, challenge them, and replace them with more helpful ones). Your wife could come, too, for some couples therapy. It could only help. Don’t give up, whatever you do. Things will get better 🙂
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Great advice! I am going through similar problems right now and am finding that a psychologist is very helpful. I’ve done individual and marriage counseling and think that it is much better than trying to cope on my own. My husband has been very ill, recuperating from major surgery in the past six months and now suffering from an autoimmune disorder. His personality has changed alot over the past few years and I have been trying to cope on my own. Once I realized that I was becoming further depressed because of his behavior, I sought help for me and it was the best thing I could have done. Things are better but there is alot of improvement needed. It is good to have hope again and to realize that taking babysteps is necessary in the process. Being patient with myself and my spouse is helpful also.
I have been experiencing the same things and they are killing my relationship. I have been acting out in ways that I could have never imagined. I was laid off and am now working security on the midnight shift, where there is a lot of down time. Too much down time. I moved in with my girlfriend eight months ago and let’s just say my thoughts have been running away with me. These thoughts have made me jealous and insecure. I have always had a swagger about me. This has never happened to me before. My therapist states that these new life experiences have triggered traumatic experiences that I had growing up and brought them back to the surface. I am currently using a Cognitive Behavior Health system along with my therapist and it seems to be helping. But I have to ensure that I put in the work.
It’s called life……
Make the best of it.
Take a holiday. It’ll help.
I know exactly what your going through it not fun it’s frustrating and overwhelming, your not alone
It is good when people are listening I’m also finding a solution to all the medical problems I have it’s too depressing to listen to myself i will just do it one at a time . Hope things will work out.
If you haven’t yet, find God, let him into you, accept that he has a plan for you, and pray for him to reveal it so that you can do his will. You may be just as surprised as I was when you see the changes. It does not happen over night, so be patient. I have lupus. I was baptized with my family (6 of us all together) this past Christmas. I returned to the Mayo Clinic this past week. They couldn’t find any evidence that lupus has ever been present in my body, and my organs are all suddenly functioning at 100%. I still deal with pain, but I am certain that if my faith stays strong, the pain will disappear as well. I can’t explain this phenomena, all I can say is this: Expect a Miracle. Best wishes for all of you. I will add you to my prayers.
I thought for many yrs. that Christ wanted us to be inclusive but I saw a devotional program and we r actually to share the Word but.beware who we allow in our lives because they can cause us to make bad decisions
OK serious Catholic here and depression patient for 15 years. You must maintain a therapeutic dose of your anti-depressant and maintain standard of care with your doctor. It’s extremely beneficial to have some psych counseling every week to get help sorting through your situations and emotions. As for faith and religion, developing a strong relationship with your spiritual community and be involved. They will become your support group as you reinforce your faith. You need to take these actions to regain control and confidence in your life. Everything takes time. Time is the healer.
Not having marriage problems (yet) but I can feel your pain with the rest. Plus I’m a teacher, which is fast replacing fireman as the most stressful job. I don’t take anything, which may be stupid for my health, but I can’t be in a fog with a room full of adolescent students. I wish I had some amazing insight to share, but I don’t. (I took a pottery class recently and for one night I was a different person.) All I can really say is I sympathize.
I know what you’re going through on every level. It’s important to be in psychotherapy because when we keep all out stressors and disappointments bottled up life can seem and feel too overwhelmingly challenging.
Another thing to keep in mind is the efficacy of the medications you are being prescribed.
Then, despite the storm around you, you must be kind and gentle with yourself. It can be very easy to be consumed by challenges that all the wonderful things we possess internally as well as externally seem so far away or diminished.
I have faith in you because you’re strong. We all are and this strength and hard work, because we do have to work on every aspect of our lives, will pay off.
Take care & I’m here if you need to chat….
Beautiful….thanks for sharing
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