Depression and Anxiety at an older age

Posted by pjss48 @pjss48, Sep 14, 2018

I am a 70 year old woman who has had depression and anxiety for a long time. It got worse 3 years ago when my husband lost one of his jobs. I panicked and my anxiety increased. I was afraid to do things. like driving. I have arthritis pretty bad and foot problems. I’m a Christian and my faith has helped me. My husband was a pastor and our church closed 3 months ago. We’ve had continual stress. Sometimes I don’t know what to do with myself during the day. I’ve gotten help from several doctors, including a psychiatrist. I also have IBS. I am better. I’m taking trazadone duloxetine, remeron and xanax. Also on osteo biflex, probiotic , bentyl and celebrex. I want to get on Sam e but it may interact with one of my meds. Thanks for listening.

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@anne4u

Hi JJ, I hope you are feeling better today and the responses you’ve received helped! I totally understand feeling like it would be a relief if I wasn’t here. I’ve had those thoughts and feelings myself. Speaking for myself, I try to remember I’m here for a reason. My faith tells me that God has a plan for me I may not understand. I’m also pretty isolated, having had chronic pain for many years. I’ve had a hard time getting out, maintaining friendships and simply being able to take care of myself. I’ve had times when I was shunned by family and it was very painful emotionally. I lost my father and older brother in the past 10 years and some close friends as well. I understand loss and limitations from health issues. Not to mention the challenges we face as we age! Throughout my life I’ve hung onto my faith and I’ve found contentment in the simple things in life. I try not to let my challenges overwhelm me by finding enjoyment in a morning cup of coffee, a short walk or a good movie. I have a dog who offers me unconditional love! I now have a relationship with my mother that I cherish. I’ve found pleasure in a few interest’s like a small garden, made an attempt at drawing and painting! I practice meditation and make smoothies with my favorite fruit. I try to eat good. I take small steps every day to benefit myself in some way. It’s not always easy for sure! I have depression and when I’m feeling down, it’s not easy to get through the day. I try to remember those feelings will pass. I live alone so it’s up to me to stay focused on the positive things in my life! We face many challenges in our world today! I hope you continue to reach out to find support and hope for yourself. I think you’ve made a great step coming here, there are wonderful caring people to offer tools and information to help. Have you talked to a therapist or general practitioner about how you’re feeling? I have both and they can help!

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Hi anneu4,
Thank you for responding. I seem so desperate to talk to someone who also just need to talk. I am not easily offended so as, or say anthing to me. I guess after living independently for so many years, it's frustrating to have my slfe so rejumented.
I too am a christian who believes God has a purpose for us, and csnnot always understand what it is. My favorite book in bible is Eccalistes, that everything has it's time and purpose. not sure of correct spelling, so there ya go. I have heart challenges, spine challenges that effect my walking, other things. I guess I am experiencing loss and not concentrating on what I can do. I know I limit myself. I just am aunable to motivate myself.
what do you do to motiate yourself? Please keep reaching out.
PEACE &LOVE….JJ

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@anne4u

Hi JJ, I hope you are feeling better today and the responses you’ve received helped! I totally understand feeling like it would be a relief if I wasn’t here. I’ve had those thoughts and feelings myself. Speaking for myself, I try to remember I’m here for a reason. My faith tells me that God has a plan for me I may not understand. I’m also pretty isolated, having had chronic pain for many years. I’ve had a hard time getting out, maintaining friendships and simply being able to take care of myself. I’ve had times when I was shunned by family and it was very painful emotionally. I lost my father and older brother in the past 10 years and some close friends as well. I understand loss and limitations from health issues. Not to mention the challenges we face as we age! Throughout my life I’ve hung onto my faith and I’ve found contentment in the simple things in life. I try not to let my challenges overwhelm me by finding enjoyment in a morning cup of coffee, a short walk or a good movie. I have a dog who offers me unconditional love! I now have a relationship with my mother that I cherish. I’ve found pleasure in a few interest’s like a small garden, made an attempt at drawing and painting! I practice meditation and make smoothies with my favorite fruit. I try to eat good. I take small steps every day to benefit myself in some way. It’s not always easy for sure! I have depression and when I’m feeling down, it’s not easy to get through the day. I try to remember those feelings will pass. I live alone so it’s up to me to stay focused on the positive things in my life! We face many challenges in our world today! I hope you continue to reach out to find support and hope for yourself. I think you’ve made a great step coming here, there are wonderful caring people to offer tools and information to help. Have you talked to a therapist or general practitioner about how you’re feeling? I have both and they can help!

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Anne, I just wanted to say your story is very inspiring and I am sure it has helped several people. God does have a plan for us. We just need to be patient and listen. And in the meantime try to remain as positive as one can. So important to think positive and make ourselves get up, move, and create a space for us to thrive.
I also have depression and other problems, but we have to be thankful for what the Lord gives us even if we do not always understand.
God bless you.

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@jjwest

Hi anneu4,
Thank you for responding. I seem so desperate to talk to someone who also just need to talk. I am not easily offended so as, or say anthing to me. I guess after living independently for so many years, it's frustrating to have my slfe so rejumented.
I too am a christian who believes God has a purpose for us, and csnnot always understand what it is. My favorite book in bible is Eccalistes, that everything has it's time and purpose. not sure of correct spelling, so there ya go. I have heart challenges, spine challenges that effect my walking, other things. I guess I am experiencing loss and not concentrating on what I can do. I know I limit myself. I just am aunable to motivate myself.
what do you do to motiate yourself? Please keep reaching out.
PEACE &LOVE….JJ

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Hi JJ,
I’m sorry you’re going through such a difficult time. It can take time to work through grief. I wonder if grief counseling might help you? I went through it when I lost my father and it was very helpful. I have a therapist I see twice a month and that’s very helpful also. It would be someone to talk to who could offer you constructive suggestions about how to handle what’s going on in your life. We all need that throughout our lives! Even with depression, I’ve always been a person who looks at the glass as half full! I’ve always felt things will get better if I do what I can for myself and put one foot in front of the other. Some days that simply means getting out of bed! I have back problems myself and just started treatment. I’ve had some injections that have helped tremendously! I also have fibromyalgia. I’ve done a lot to watch my diet and get a little exercise to help with pain and fatigue. That’s why I asked if you have a primary physician, and if you’ve shared some of the things your experiencing? Mine was able to refer me to a pain doctor as well as my therapist. If you’re having challenges motivating yourself, sometimes it helps to have someone to point you in helpful directions!
Meditation was difficult for me at first. My mind would wonder and I’d forget to breath! But I stuck with it and have found it has many benefits. It calms my mind and body. I use the Calm app but there are many to choose from. Also, finding something you enjoy doing whether it’s reading, drawing, cooking, etc. helps pass the time.
Just remember that we’re all doing the best we can to manage life on life’s terms!
Try to remember you’re in a tough place right now. Be good to yourself and give yourself time. That can be one of the most difficult things to do! Please think about getting the help you need, it could make all the difference! Finding contentment is within your reach! I just feel we all need a hand finding it sometimes! I have faith in you!

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@kratz5

Anne, I just wanted to say your story is very inspiring and I am sure it has helped several people. God does have a plan for us. We just need to be patient and listen. And in the meantime try to remain as positive as one can. So important to think positive and make ourselves get up, move, and create a space for us to thrive.
I also have depression and other problems, but we have to be thankful for what the Lord gives us even if we do not always understand.
God bless you.

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Gratitude is so important! Thank you for your kind words. God bless you!

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@anne4u

Hi JJ,
I’m sorry you’re going through such a difficult time. It can take time to work through grief. I wonder if grief counseling might help you? I went through it when I lost my father and it was very helpful. I have a therapist I see twice a month and that’s very helpful also. It would be someone to talk to who could offer you constructive suggestions about how to handle what’s going on in your life. We all need that throughout our lives! Even with depression, I’ve always been a person who looks at the glass as half full! I’ve always felt things will get better if I do what I can for myself and put one foot in front of the other. Some days that simply means getting out of bed! I have back problems myself and just started treatment. I’ve had some injections that have helped tremendously! I also have fibromyalgia. I’ve done a lot to watch my diet and get a little exercise to help with pain and fatigue. That’s why I asked if you have a primary physician, and if you’ve shared some of the things your experiencing? Mine was able to refer me to a pain doctor as well as my therapist. If you’re having challenges motivating yourself, sometimes it helps to have someone to point you in helpful directions!
Meditation was difficult for me at first. My mind would wonder and I’d forget to breath! But I stuck with it and have found it has many benefits. It calms my mind and body. I use the Calm app but there are many to choose from. Also, finding something you enjoy doing whether it’s reading, drawing, cooking, etc. helps pass the time.
Just remember that we’re all doing the best we can to manage life on life’s terms!
Try to remember you’re in a tough place right now. Be good to yourself and give yourself time. That can be one of the most difficult things to do! Please think about getting the help you need, it could make all the difference! Finding contentment is within your reach! I just feel we all need a hand finding it sometimes! I have faith in you!

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I just want to add that my appointments are telephone appointments, which many doctors offer these days! It makes it very convenient, especially if I’m not feeling up to driving. Ask your doctor if they offer telephonic appointments!

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Stay busy. I fill each day with whatever I can to stay positive and give back to the community. I volunteer at the library, woman's center, etc. I play cards with a group one day a week. I take my dog to agility.
There are so many people who need help out there and I f I balance my volunteer work with just having relaxation and fun, I stay positive

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@jjwest

of pissed 48 do you mind telling me how old you are? I recently turned 79, always been a female. Widowed, have heart challlenges, spine, creating walking challenges. Just recently moved into my son and family's home. They have fixed a room up for me which I stay in most of the time.
What caught my attention is what you said about working up to take a shower. I used to be very independent, I co habitated with for 15 years. He recently died of a recent heart attack.
I desperately just need someone to talk with. If you are willing please respond… I live in Austin, Texas
PEACE & LOVE …JJ

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Hi JJ, I need someone to talk with, desperately. I have had depression for many, many years, I am 79. I had two episodes of depression when my doctor was trying to switch my meds and I was close to suicide. My doctor is the best and I am okay now. I am taking Welbutrin, Seroquel, and Trintellix.
I was in a relationship for 16 years, he died and I have been alone for 2 years. My daughter lives near by, but that is not the same. I have such a hard time really, really telling my daughter how I feel. My daughter is on a cruise right now she will be back in 10 more days. I have not been outside for 6 days.
I am sorry to go on like this. Thanks for listening

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@luv2read

Hi JJ, I need someone to talk with, desperately. I have had depression for many, many years, I am 79. I had two episodes of depression when my doctor was trying to switch my meds and I was close to suicide. My doctor is the best and I am okay now. I am taking Welbutrin, Seroquel, and Trintellix.
I was in a relationship for 16 years, he died and I have been alone for 2 years. My daughter lives near by, but that is not the same. I have such a hard time really, really telling my daughter how I feel. My daughter is on a cruise right now she will be back in 10 more days. I have not been outside for 6 days.
I am sorry to go on like this. Thanks for listening

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You are not alone. Everything you said is how I am feeling and how my life is. I am just a piggy bank for my adult children. I am so depressed that I don't know what to do. I see a social worker to talk on Monday. I am 70. My family is gone. I just have a few friends, but I could easily not talk to anyone or go out for 7 days and no one would notice or care.

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Does anyone suffer like I do with trying to live a normal life while trying to get use to the new meds. With feeling so ill in the mornings mostly. It sure is a lonely illness. And I so need female friends who go theough the same as I do. I Don't have any friends and it is so hard. I have family but I tend to hide all my feelings because I want to save them from all the pain.

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@luv2read

Hi JJ, I need someone to talk with, desperately. I have had depression for many, many years, I am 79. I had two episodes of depression when my doctor was trying to switch my meds and I was close to suicide. My doctor is the best and I am okay now. I am taking Welbutrin, Seroquel, and Trintellix.
I was in a relationship for 16 years, he died and I have been alone for 2 years. My daughter lives near by, but that is not the same. I have such a hard time really, really telling my daughter how I feel. My daughter is on a cruise right now she will be back in 10 more days. I have not been outside for 6 days.
I am sorry to go on like this. Thanks for listening

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hi, just wanted you to know that I suffer also with Depression and Anxiety and have been for my whole life. I am 63 almost and the loneliness of this illness is so hard. I am now taking Cymbalta and Remeron. I am sorry for your loss. life is not so easy is it. Hugs to you..Blessings also

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@ameliamarie

Does anyone suffer like I do with trying to live a normal life while trying to get use to the new meds. With feeling so ill in the mornings mostly. It sure is a lonely illness. And I so need female friends who go theough the same as I do. I Don't have any friends and it is so hard. I have family but I tend to hide all my feelings because I want to save them from all the pain.

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@ameliamarie As one who has tried numerous medications as well as its numerous side effects, if you find that combination to help you get your life back then go for it. Wishing you the best.

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@ameliamarie

hi, just wanted you to know that I suffer also with Depression and Anxiety and have been for my whole life. I am 63 almost and the loneliness of this illness is so hard. I am now taking Cymbalta and Remeron. I am sorry for your loss. life is not so easy is it. Hugs to you..Blessings also

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Hi AmeliaMarie. You are correct, the loneliness of this illness is so hard. Life is not so easy. Blessings and Hugs to you.
Doris

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