depressed, single mom, please help

Posted by 2 @2, Aug 29, 2011

Professionals, single-parents who identify, or insightful people; please respond. I do not feel comfortable seeking professional help. (I had a friend who’s husband left her. She was seen for depression & given med’s. Her X dragged her health records through a custody battlle & won. She killed herself) . That’s 1 example of y I don’t want records or RX’s. I thought there might be a way to talk to someone anonymously??? I’ve become isolated over the years & have no support system at all. I’ve mostly just worked & tried to maintain(barely) home & family(of 2) for 13 yrs. Not getting along w/ son now & it makes me feel like I have failed & everything was for NOTHING.

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He is 13. He went to my mom’s which was o.k. but now several weeks have passed. My mood has deteriorated during that time. I’ve considered that I may have some social phobia/anxiety as well.

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Trying to post since yesterday, can’t say why but having trouble…had a positive to share, also.

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He is 13. He went to my mom’s which was o.k. but now several weeks have passed. My mood has deteriorated during that time. I’ve considered that I may have some social phobia/anxiety as well.

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This post came thru. You might continue to try. Looking forward to what your good news is.

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He is 13. He went to my mom’s which was o.k. but now several weeks have passed. My mood has deteriorated during that time. I’ve considered that I may have some social phobia/anxiety as well.

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Interesting. My job included the shelter crisis line. No matter what was going on the crisis line had to be answered. And, because of our agencys’ name, we got calls of every kind imaginable. Yes, suicide calls. We were not professionals in that area but not aware we ever lost any of the callers. We were totally anon, had no caller ID and were not allowed to put a trace on the call. Quite difficult at times. AND I worked 2-10pm most of those years and would be the only staff. Would not have an opportunity to send help even if we were allowed…hard to talk on two lines at the same time. I ended ok with it all, but knew if it went on longer it was going to take me down. It did somewhat but not so that I could not re-coup. Not something I want to do anymore. But I did LOVE my job. Some times that is just not enough though.

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He is 13. He went to my mom’s which was o.k. but now several weeks have passed. My mood has deteriorated during that time. I’ve considered that I may have some social phobia/anxiety as well.

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That would have been more clear if I hadn’t erased half (first time I’ve erased). Meant to say “I” am having trouble posting, not sure why. & that I didn’t disappear.

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He is 13. He went to my mom’s which was o.k. but now several weeks have passed. My mood has deteriorated during that time. I’ve considered that I may have some social phobia/anxiety as well.

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Funny, that one went through twice. Editing to this. Phone not so easy to work w/. Ok, now myself or my phone aren’t cooperating. Does not want me to edit & submitted in the middle of doing so

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He is 13. He went to my mom’s which was o.k. but now several weeks have passed. My mood has deteriorated during that time. I’ve considered that I may have some social phobia/anxiety as well.

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Or wait a minute, you didn’t actually know what I meant the first time? That struck me kind of funny ‘-)

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He is 13. He went to my mom’s which was o.k. but now several weeks have passed. My mood has deteriorated during that time. I’ve considered that I may have some social phobia/anxiety as well.

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Guess I didn’t know what you were meaning. ‘-) A problem I have is the posts showing up all over and then I even got notice you had posted and it showed up in my spam box. Go figure.

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He is 13. He went to my mom’s which was o.k. but now several weeks have passed. My mood has deteriorated during that time. I’ve considered that I may have some social phobia/anxiety as well.

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Phone seriously not cooperating again. Not letting me edit original or erase duplicate.

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He is 13. He went to my mom’s which was o.k. but now several weeks have passed. My mood has deteriorated during that time. I’ve considered that I may have some social phobia/anxiety as well.

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#5. Going back to #’s then. If phone submits I’m going to just cont. on new #. Will backtrack a little. (Mind has been full of thoughts but mental block for writing. Surprised it was easier before as I’ve avoided writing all my life, also. Also, feel like there will be some surprise limit to discussion pg). I had considered that you were searching that site for something, if it was answered, I knew I had none. Glad you shared call center story. My original text said I thought u would be aws0me w/#0 cause spellchecker wouldn’t take it (also, it just tried to change it to ‘weekly’ incase you run across words that don’t make sensein my text. You have had a lot to offer & by sharing. You ‘kept me on’ is what I was thinking & answered the call. It’s not that I think what’s going on seems so much more serious than others’ problems, things just seemed so pointless & pointless to try anymore. Did you see my 11:31 foment on identity(maybe some of that going on since son has been out of the house,too). Battery low, changing locations & will start #6.

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He is 13. He went to my mom’s which was o.k. but now several weeks have passed. My mood has deteriorated during that time. I’ve considered that I may have some social phobia/anxiety as well.

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#6 yesterday I considered that you were already gone. I was going to post one more time & mention ‘the positive’ in the event you weren’t entirely. I did manage to leave the house & go to an ACA meeting. Thought I was well already on the way home(meant to be funny). However, I resumed immediately back to 24 hrs of ‘paralysis’. Since it has some focus on the impact of childhood,is a good thing, I think. Thought a lot about that since I saw that news article & about when I was 13, since you mentioned it. A lot. Am blaming that on the whole social issue & the inability to communicate on a personal level. Don’t think I have ever done so to this level. Also, shocked(don’t have a better word) for you to say you aren’t going anywhere. First thought was,”well, ya you will”. Although, I believe you are sincere. Second thought,”something else will happen then.” That reminds me of something(meant to be funny). I thought maybe mayo would remove me entirely if they got around to noticing my mad discussion accusing them of privacy breach. You know my thing for anonymity, it listed my full name(good thing I picked a funny one) & wouldn’t let me remove it. I think you can see both if you click on my ??? name, under discussions & click friends then browse member. It was on like pg 6 or7 last I saw because so many people had joined.

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He is 13. He went to my mom’s which was o.k. but now several weeks have passed. My mood has deteriorated during that time. I’ve considered that I may have some social phobia/anxiety as well.

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#7 i’d like to ask this now… How are you? Where you just searching on 8/29 or did you know what you were searching for?
should you feel like sharing: What happened when you went over the edge, so to speak? Where the mentors & services outside the medical field enough to bring you to the time where you felt you had some direction? did you seek help originally at the same place you worked? How & does anxiety affect you now and what do you do to manage it. I suspect you are good at applying the knowledge & perspective you have gained.

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He is 13. He went to my mom’s which was o.k. but now several weeks have passed. My mood has deteriorated during that time. I’ve considered that I may have some social phobia/anxiety as well.

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Evening ???
Honestly I am fine. LOL!!! I have to say it has been among the worst of my recent days. But I am fine. I was searching for info on the meds I was changing when I saw your post…trying to see what kind of symptoms and what to expect from the change. Not much to find there…had to search elsewhere. Honestly, once I managed to decide it was time to get out and go to shelter I was a sponge…I wanted to suck up any and all information I could. I was able to get help thru group therapy within the community. Feeling safe physically and emotionally did a lot of the work for me. Yes, I sought help at the shelter where I began to work.
It was good you were able to get out of your home and be around people. Whaat is the group you attend Adult Children of Alcoholics? I know it referred to as ACOA if that is what the group is. I sort of got the idea you had been to the group in the past.
It has crossed my mind to seek a group like that for a bit..or a while. My own children and I are so dysfunctional I feel like I am taking body blows dealing with my daughter at times. A bit hesitant about unmoderated groups with no professional involved. That is my choice…I know 12-step has saved people and families when nothing else could.
Do you have plans for the holiday weekend? Good time to get out here. Do you do any photography or anything else that would encourage you to get outside?

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