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Posted by @sharf315, May 27, 2012

Hi all, My mom, who has mild-to-moderate Alzheimers, was just released from a nursing months after 7 months to come back home to live with my dad. We were pushing for the discharge to happen but now we’re worried that it’s “too much, too soon”. My dad is now her primary caregiver and it’s a harder job than we thought and remember. She is going to be attending a senior day care for 5 days a week for 4-5 hours a day but we’re not sure if that’s going to be enough…enough physical and mental stimulation for her and enough respite for my dad.

I was thinking about putting a schedule together (like she had at the nursing home) of things to do during the day. Her normal routine would be that she would get up and have her day all planned out for her and I thought she might be feeling kind of lost without it.

Was wondering if any of you have “been there, done that” and can share any helpful hints to make this transition a little smoother for both my mom and our family.

Thanks in advance for any information you would care to share.

God Bless,



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Posted by @piglit, May 27, 2012

Hi Shar. I’m a aged care worker. I work within the homes of people who have high are needs. I specialize in Alzheimers and dementia. Firstly may I ask why if your mum was placed in a nursing home that she isreturning home? With this conditon it will unfortunatley contine to regress. It’s a great idea to send your Mum to daycare programs these are great as llong as they are able to assit with the care with your mum’s Allzheimers. If not find a program that is for people that have dememtia. Your Dad will need assistance when you mum is not at the program your dad will have her the rest of the time it is very tiring and takes alot of work on the carer. Eventually you will need to step up the care re assistance with personal care re showering assistance with dressing etc. People with dementia do follow a routine it is good to have one in place, while they are able to follow it. You may be able to get in home carers to assist when the time is necessary for extra help. In the meantime your dad and your family will need to take this on. I know how hard this is on families, it is not an easy undertaking, but you do it out of love in your case for your dear Mum. I wish you lots of luck and I’m here anytime that you need me. God Bless you too Take Care Piglit


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Posted by @dawngarr, Jun 8, 2012

Shar, my heart goes out to you and your family. My dad past with vascular dementia. It is almost impossible to keep your mom at home full time since this disease only getsworse. My dad used to wander out night and thank God the police picked him up and was very gentle with him. There are a few good nursing homes,but you must make sure they truly know how to deal with these patients. Not all do even tho they may advertise that they do.There is a website called A place for mom. They helped me a lot to find a place for my dad. Good luck and God bless

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