Caregiver for my mom: Dealing with my own mental health

Posted by relay123 @relay123, Nov 6, 2017

I’m 61 years old. I lost my husband 8 years ago. I have 1 daughter who I had to take care of in highschool. Then I took care of my mother-in-law​ then 2 years for my husband. I have 2 sisters who don’t help. I’ve had to move in with her. I’m manic depressive, bi polar an totally depressed. I have a 3 year old grandson who I live for an my daughter but I don’t know how much more I can take. I pray an cry pray an cry. HELP PLEASE.

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I so feel for you. I am 58 and have had my Mum living with me for nearly 3 years. She has dementia. I struggle too. I have a daughter who is a single Mum and has mental and physical health problems so I spend a lot of time also looking after my 7 year old grandson. It is hard work looking after everyone! You sound like you really need help. I see a counsellor because I got very depressed about everything and also Mum has respite. I am in the UK. I don’t know if you are in the US (the spelling of ‘Mom’ is a clue) and how different things are for you there? I urge you to get as much assistance as you can from the relevant social services / authorities. I will pray for you. Although Mum is very easy to look after compared to most, I still get feelings of immense frustration, anger and despair so although I don’t have mental health problems myself, I can sympathise. You are probably like me, wondering after looking after children, grandchildren and parents, when your life will actually begin for YOU! Please don’t suffer in silence. Please ask what is available for people like you in your area.


Also, you must do what you can to get your sisters to help you! Try and find a way to make them understand how difficult things are for you and that you can’t reasonably be expected to cope on your own.

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