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Borderline Personality Disorder

Posted by @14gardens in Mental Health, Nov 18, 2012

My 19 year old daughter meets every one of the criteria for BPD. Anyone out there have first-hand experience in dealing with someone close to them with this disorder?
And, would anyone with BPD be willing to talk openly and honestly about their experience in dealing with this disorder themselves?

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bpd31mneedhelp

Posted by @bpd31mneedhelp, Nov 27, 2012

Hi, I am 31 year old male suffering from bpd. I wish there was a solid way to treat this hell of an illness. It's like u destroy Ur own life unintendedly. I'm currently taking an anti depressant to try and help as much as possible.

rmenasco

Posted by @rmenasco, Dec 1, 2012

Look at DBT on the web. Google you city and DBT to see if there are any therapist trained in DBT.

bzg4

Posted by @bzg4, Dec 1, 2012

if they won't go to the therapist, what is left?

rmenasco

Posted by @rmenasco, Dec 1, 2012

You have to take care of your self first. Look at YouTube. Check the NAMI website for info. Search on DBT as well as BPD. Go to Tara Brach web site for hundreds of guided meditations that can calm and sooth you.. Stay safe.

bzg4

Posted by @bzg4, Dec 1, 2012

I have a loved one affected by BPD type II. He refuses to get any medical help or counseling. He lies a lot, and has had multiple addictions. The one he struggles the most with is pornography and sex. If he is refusing to get any help outside of his own efforts, what choices do I have to help?

anndelusia

Posted by @anndelusia, Dec 7, 2012

You can help him by learning how to communicate. People with BPD don't feel heard or understood & wil turn to anything that helps them make it through the day. Two books I highly recommend: Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder by Valerie Porr, and When Hope Is Not Enough by Bon Dobbs.

anndelusia

Posted by @anndelusia, Dec 7, 2012

I'm so sorry. It a terrible disorder that is genetic & biological. You didn't cause it. My 30 year old daughter was on crystal meth for 2 years -- anything to stop the pain -- before making a last ditch effort to find help. She went online & found a DBT trained therapist who has helped her so much (but my dtr has also put in a lot of hard work). But DBT can be expensive & hard to find. Perhaps your local chapter of NAMI could give you some advice. And DBT is not the only effective therapy. There's also STEPPS & Schema. Check out meandmyblacktable on YouTube. You must feel so alone, but for reassurance that you're not, go to psychforums.com. I hope you'll soon have more reason to hope & wish you the best of luck.

reichertolivia12

Posted by @reichertolivia12, Nov 30, 2012

I'm 19 years old, and I have most of the criteria for BPD. I also have ADHD, and side effects of anxiety and major depression.

bzg4

Posted by @bzg4, Dec 1, 2012

are you seeking medical assistance and/or counseling?

rmenasco

Posted by @rmenasco, Dec 1, 2012

hey Bipolarl is many times a misdiagnosis And is really BPD. Look at the BPD & DBT info and see what you think.

reichertolivia12

Posted by @reichertolivia12, Dec 1, 2012

I'm in counseling currently and I see a psychiatrist. I'm taking Concerta, Lorazepam, and Abilify.

14gardens

Posted by @14gardens, Dec 4, 2012

I am glad to hear that you are seeking help and taking medication to help with the symptoms. How long have you been on Abilify? And do you think it helps? My daughter is currently taking it as well. Out of curiosity, would you consider yourself to have a lot of past traumas in your life? My daughter has and I am wondering if others who suffer with this have as well.

rmenasco

Posted by @rmenasco, Dec 1, 2012

The are DBT self help info from the UK that are quite good. YouTube and other sites on BPD should have some videos for care givers. DBT is the latest buzz for BPD. It cost a lot of money for treatment. It's good your child is so young.

jusclaire

Posted by @jusclaire, Dec 5, 2012

Lots of people have been diagnosed with mental issues when they are really suffering from cerebral allergies or brain allergies. They need to remove themselves from the offending food or environmental substance which goes directly to them brain and causes problems. Do your research on cerebral allergies and find a clinical ecologist. Get hold of a book called 'Coping with your allergies' by Natalie Golos. This should help a lot. Go on the internet and researc research research. I have just had to diagnose myself through researc because doctors did not understand any of my issues. I recognised that I was suffering from brain allergies to protein. I felt like I was going crazy when I used anything with protein. This meant I was always eating almost nothing. My brain would get very fuzzy and I could not focus or concentrate. I would be sleepy all day long and actually go into short dreams all day long, no matter what I am doing. I would be awake but dreaming. Doctors could not understand that. In researching I realise that the brain allergies have thrown me into narcolepsy. They say it is not curable. But I know it can be controlled if I control my allergies. Being on a raw vegetable and fruit diet helps to control the allergies. vegetables must be raw. Cabbage. carrots. cucucumber. christophene. celery. tomatoes. lettuce. You can shred them up or blend them and use as a drink but you need to balance it with protein. I cant have the protein so I try the liquid predigested proteins and I also use multi enzymes for digestion.

Posted by Anonymous-71f912f1, Dec 7, 2012

I have a 30 yr old daughter with BPD. Best books: Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder by Valerie Porr, and When Hope Is Not Enough, by Bon Dobbs. Steer clear of Stop Walking On Eggshells, by Randi Kreeger. Tough love DOES NOT work. The NEABPD website is excellent (neabpd.com). Get on their waiting list for a Family Connections class -- a life saver. Register for their free call-in series on Sunday nights. Check with NAMI & local hospitals to see if there are support groups specifically for BPD. DBT is the gold standard for treatment. Therapy as usual is often harmful. Don't take her treatment of you personally; it's not about you. Don't kick her out. Things improve dramatically once you learn the proper way to communicate. (I never would have believed it.) She is in unspeakable pain. I know you both must feel you're living in hell. It can get better. It really can.

14gardens

Posted by @14gardens, Dec 7, 2012

Thanks so much~your info will be incredibly helpful I am sure!

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