Assisted Living and DNR (Do Not Resuscitate)
Hi! My dad moved into an assisted living facility about six months ago. At the time of admission they asked if he had a DNR. He asked to be a full code and worked. He is fully aware of his medical conditions and fully understands his choice between being a full code or a DNR. I respect his decision as it is his life and he is fully capable of making the decision. He does have medical problems, he has had a heart transplant and now has Parkinson’s. He moved into the assisted living for safety reasons. He had several falls leading up to the move. One of the nurses on staff called me today about a minor issue, no big deal. They call about everything! I do understand they need to keep the family informed. However after calling me about his hemorrhoids (they call about everything) she told me I should consider changing his advance directives to a DNR. I was a little taken back by this for a couple of reasons. I feel like this might be overstepping on her part? Is she somebody that should be saying this to me? Should this be coming from somebody in administration, social worker, nursing director? The other thing is my dad is of sound mind, involved in his health care and he wants be a full code. So, I go back to why is she asking me to change his directive to a DNR? I should add I don’t necessarily disagree, if I was my dad I would be a DNR, but that is not what he wants. Looking for what others might think, am I just being overly sensitive?