Are ALL doctors nuts? Or heartless?

Posted by januaryjane @januaryjane, May 19 12:15am

I just came back from a horrible visit. I will go into more detail later as it is late. Im thinking of filing a complaint on him, so inappropriate. He actually said something like this at one point, 'So, I guess Ill leave you with a quote from "The Girl Next Door" (2004 movie), is the juice worth the squeeze?' We were discussing surgery(for myself), with my 65 year old mother present. I didn't know what he was talking about but then remembered the movie name and just of it. No words….. I just sat there staring at him. This is offensive is so many ways, and felt like it was a jab at not taking me seriously. Awful experience, huge let down. It gets me to wondering, are most doctors uninterested pricks? Maybe I just get all the freaks…

If he is in a group report him. If solo practice, never go back.you deserve respect from health care workers.

Tell your insurance company what happened.
Maybe you really don’t need surgery.
Take care,
Funcountess

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@januaryjane You're right that every patient deserves respect, and to be listened to, fully. Is this surgery elective? Will it make your life less stressful? Perhaps the Dr was weighing the risks/various outcomes versus the benefits of the surgery, is that possible? That is what my first thought was, when I read it. I once had a surgical opinion for a procedure, where the Dr said it would probably work, but the risk was something he wasn't comfortable with. He would do it reluctantly. He was being honest.
Ginger

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@gingerw

@januaryjane You're right that every patient deserves respect, and to be listened to, fully. Is this surgery elective? Will it make your life less stressful? Perhaps the Dr was weighing the risks/various outcomes versus the benefits of the surgery, is that possible? That is what my first thought was, when I read it. I once had a surgical opinion for a procedure, where the Dr said it would probably work, but the risk was something he wasn't comfortable with. He would do it reluctantly. He was being honest.
Ginger

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I really like what you said, Ginger. Regarding your doctor being "reluctant " to do the procedure and why.
My personal experience with doctors is the same experience I have with people in general. Some folks are uncomfortable to engage with, so I back off, and save my energy to allow caring, compassionate people, and doctors, in my life.

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@januaryjane He was certainly not a professional in the way he communicated with you. Are you planning on seeking a second opinion regarding the surgery?

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I wasnt asking his opinion for the major surgery, which would be elective, but maybe save my life. I was referred to him for an interstim. He had no idea why I was there. When I told him for my motility disorder, he said it was not approved in the US for constipation. He can look into it but not sure he can do. We were devastated. A different dr recommended the interstim device. They sorta fell through for me. Not sure what to do now. Mayo maybe. Im not sure they could give me a different conclusion anyway. I have only so much energy. And need to rest at breaking points. I hate to take time away from this, but I feel there are periods I need to leave it on the backburner. Focus on something else so I dont feel so consumed by my disabilities. I wish i had more educated people to look up to. Im very limited where i live. I wish one thing would pan out. I wish i knew the right thing to do.

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No they are not all nuts or heartless. There are still very caring Doctors out there. Pray and ask God for the right Dr. to help you. God has answered my prayers about Dr. and other things.

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@tmmmrlts

No they are not all nuts or heartless. There are still very caring Doctors out there. Pray and ask God for the right Dr. to help you. God has answered my prayers about Dr. and other things.

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Ive done plenty of that.

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