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Posted by @coorski in Mental Health, Jul 31, 2012

I am struggling to stop drinking. I have no doubts what so ever that I am an alcoholic, and it will kill me if I don't stop. The best I can do is to make a day or two, and then I relapse. I've worked with AA for over 5 years, and I am still drinking. It is a huge burden, and maybe I've painted myself in a corner tight enough that I have no choice but not to drink. I would like to join in a discussion with people who have successfully stopped their alcohol abuse, and could possibly assist me as I attempt once again not to drink. I have no delusions about ever being able to drink alcohol sensibly in the future. I know, that for me, the only option is total and permanent abstinence. Typically by the weekend, I'll be feeling rather well, and then I decide I can have some. If I drink beer, on average, I drink at least 12 and sometimes up to 14. I usually don't drink hard liquor of wine as it really sneaks up on me, and the next thing I know it's the next morning, and I don't remember much. The one thing I am trying is to eat late in the afternoon so I have a full stomach as I approach my alcohol abuse hour/hours (typically starting around 3 to 5, and then drinking for 4 hours after starting).

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Posted by @yumadeb, Aug 3, 2012

I feel so sorrry for you as I have done the same thing since my early 20s and now Im 52 and I have been through treatment so many times and AA meetings but nothing works and I have had a hard life and always depression. Getting to the point I cant take it anymore----no anti-depressents have worked for me, I am going to try to take 5 HTP and extra vitamins and see if it hrlps some. Wish I could tell you some good news but I get so depressed , I think my chances are about over. Maybe talking to others online will help.l


Posted by @amberpep, Aug 4, 2012

Hi CoorSki ..... I'm so sorry you're struggling with this. I'm sure you know more about your disease than I, but just some thoughts from an adult child of alcoholics. Alcoholism is merely a symptom of deeper underlying problems ... there is a hole you are trying to fill and medicate yourself from feeling pain from some experience you've had in the past.(abuse, divorce, losses, sexual molestation). That is why folks drink. I would strongly urge you get into therapy, in addition to A.A. Through a good therapist you will be able to dig deep and find the reason for this and the mechanism that is driving it, and there is one.
I won't go into how destructive this is, for you and for those around you .... I'm sure you know that. My concern is that you get the help you desperately need and find out what is driving this in you.
Please keep us posted.

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Posted by @bettyann, Aug 5, 2012

Hi CoorSki,
I think Barb has a great idea about your seeing a therapist. I have mixed feelings about worked great for one friend of mine...and kept a couple of other friends having their perpetual problem. It just varies from person to person.
I think I was blessed in that I developed an allergy to alcohol when I turned 40... My beloved adopted Dad was an alcoholic but GOT HIMSELF THROUGH I know it can be done..
My birthmother was an alcoholic but she wouldn't admit to it "because she just drank beer" ... My adopted mother wasn't an alcoholic but was very mean to me when she was drinking.
Please consider visiting with a therapist/counselor... I don't know your 'religious' status, but please avoid the religious approach UNLESS it is really your own chosen thing and way of life...otherwise it could get worse...believe me.
Don't be afraid to be 'picky' about who your counselor is...its YOUR LIFE... Just please keep intending to find a GOOD one...the RIGHT one! 🙂 I wish you luck and love. Things WILL work out for you if you really want them to... and its OK to feel down sometimes. Hey! We are all human! 🙂


Posted by @roxie43, Aug 6, 2012

Thank You for your honesty.. Admitting a problem is a huge step in recovering. I would advice you to seek professional help to stop drinking. Beer is alcohol as is a shot of rum or a glass of wine. When someone with alcoholism attempts to stop drinking on their own they run the serious risk of dangerous and even deadly withdrawal symptoms. Please, do not do this on your own okay??
I am proud of you for reaching out to us and look forward to hearing about this very important journey...


Posted by @dsduke, Aug 18, 2012

Hello CoorSki. You drink a little like I did back in my drinking days. I usually drank just beer and made sure I ate, so I could drink more and have a better drunk. I've been sober over 16 years now, and used AA and The 12 Steps for over 8 of those years to help me stay sober. Meetings were important, but I took a hold of those steps and practiced them as best as I could each day. The end result was that I changed who was and got through many things sober. As I began to realize I could stay sober on my own and that it wasn't about not drinking but finding greater happiness, I moved forward without AA. The last 8 years has been about more growth as a person, and trying to believe in something that created life and the universe for a reason. My life isn't perfect today, but I am happier and more fulfilled than when I was drinking. You're where you need to be to stop drinking, and you need to hear that. Now to stay stopped. First, our brain needs to re-balance itself. There are something called neurotransmitters in our brains to help us feel better about ourselves and feel happy in everyday life. The longer we stay away from using a substance to make us happy, the greater chance we have of remaining abstinent. Fear is the biggest factor in our endeavor. We doubt we can stay sober, we doubt we can be happy, and we doubt anyone or anything can help us. So we need to find a way to quiet the mind. We can start by trying to re-balance it with diet and exercise, and changing our thoughts. There are other avenues for recovery besides AA that can help us change how we think. The bottom line is that you need to hear you can and will be all right if you stay away from that first drink. You need to go to any length you can to remain sober. This requires doing some things you don't want to do. Hope is powerful, and so is the help of others. If you can, even praying to something unseen can help. Prayer, people, hope, and self-talk were my tools for staying sober and finding happiness. I also became more confident in life and with myself, and somewhere along the way, I knew I could say sober no matter what. Fear can still enter my world today, but it always turns out to be the boogeyman. I just scratched the surface here as far as helping you. Just know that I stumbled upon this forum by accident, and that I don't believe in coincidences. However, I do believe we have the ability to happy without a drug. Now you have to begin believing this yourself.


Posted by @wilkins905, Aug 29, 2012

I also think the AA would be a good thing !!!

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