@thisismarilynb your feelings are valid because they are yours. You can feel sad when looking at the picture now. Perhaps in a little while it might get easier. If not, it’s ok.
My daughter was 45 when she died of an overdose of painkillers mixed with fentanyl. That was almost 5 years ago. She left behind her 3 children who were ages 10, 13, and 16 at the time of her death.
I have a few pictures around of her with her beautiful family. I feel sad when I see her, however I also have times when I’m angry with her. When one of her children has a birthday, or graduates I actually yell at her picture. I tell her that she is missing out on their lives, and they are having to do life without their mom. How dare she be so selfish!
I have pictures of my parents, and other family members around. I like looking at them. When I see my parents, I will sometimes say good morning to them. I feel sad they are gone, but they were meant to die before me and my sister.
Our feelings are neither wrong nor right. They just are.

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