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depression and anger over being used by brother that took all my money did not repay any
MY brother a few yrs ago got in trouble because he didnt contribute to retirement
plan where he worked but he paid the employees retirement. this was illegal
he was looking at divorce losing his house and job and his standing as an
elected official--possible jail time. i handed him all my retirement money ===
i only had 45k recently rolled into my retirement fund. i had to pay irs a lot because
i wasnt retirement age when i got disabled. he said he would give me his land
he would inherit when our parents were no longer with us. he has not ever even
mentioned or paid any thing back to me. nor give me his land. i cannot sleep
have anxiety and hatred for him. can anyone help me get over this? i cannot afford therapy. i am 70 now and i do without proper food and live off ss check.
my brother lives high-buys exp guns gifts for his friends takes them to eat never
asks me. this squandering by him has turned me against him. he does nothing
for me. someone please give me advice about letting this gol i have a lot of anger and resentment to him. he will never pay me anything back. thanks .liz
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Good idea to try and stay on the right side of the law I think
just what works for me, everyone is different, You gotta find a outlet, some its knitting, gardening, hobbies. But I found one thing that gets the hurt to go away for me is painting, no I can't paint on paper but I will paint on darn near anything else, I am not good but its just lets my emotion get out into the work, and then the next day I look at it, and you can tell how pissed I was by what I painted, and I have had to sand a few things back down because they were not something I wanted to keep, but there are some that I am still glad I did, for example right now on my computer desk between me and the monitor if you look down towards your fingers on the keyboard Its says ALIVE in 6 inch letters, bright bold and catches your eye, it reminds me everyday that I did survive, and I need to be thankful for that, well the night I painted that was the last time I had "survivors guilt" where I wished I had also died in that wreck. So long story short, we all have a lot we go through but what matters is we are still here, and we are still trying to better ourselves and help outs, I know what its like to go from not worrying about money to not knowing how to keep the lights on or food on the table, I have lived well the 25th will be 1 year in financial crisis due to someone elses mistake. and I agree IT SUCKS to worry about money, but I also have learned, money and things are way over rated. I hope this helped at all, I really hope you can find what you need to hear, and be patient, it took me sometime of reading peoples responses and opinion tell I found what worked for me, But I am still new around here but I got a couple friends now that know what I am going through, and understand, and most importantly Don't judge me. only we are weak, together with friends we can be strong!!!
Hi j so agree with what you are saying , and know exactly where your coming from with all of this, Im so proud of you with the ongoing strength that continues to shine through. No-one should be judgemental, and you know that I do understand, and I'm so glad that your'e here. and yes together with friends can be us stronger. Take care Piglit
Hi Friend- I think you are great. I mean that. You are very good at expressing
yourself and helping me, too. You got a grip-I admire that. I am learning from
all who have reached out to me. There is a lot of love and kindness shown on
this site. I am thankful I found such great friends. Ann
Dear J's that was so beautiful. It is so true what u have said the most important things in life are health love and friendships money helps but it can not bring happiness and it certaintly cannot buy health. Remember there are people out there much worse than we. I try to put that in perspective when I feel down thank u again for such a beautiful reading. All the best. Jodi.
Hi Ann been wondering where u have been was getting worried how r things? Your friend jodi
Dear Jodi Thanks for concern--I'm trying -Thats all I guess I can do anyway.
The brother stops by to tell me what all he bought and put in his SAFE--and
everybody he cooked steaks for lately. Those remarks make it real hard to be
around him-Big Spender--still trying to buy people.to be his friend. He dont know
it--but I WAS the best friend he ever had.He is spending about 10K a ,,month.
I leave my house to avoid--but he comes back by to tell me. If you can understand
some of this mess--then you would imagine --it hurts. I pray every day to get rid
of hostility I have.---Thanks to a friend like you that I know cares, hopefully one day
i can forgive and go on --IN HIS LOVE, Ann
Hi ann maybe if you explained to your brother how much this upsets you it may help. I find that if you can talk things out and discuss what's troubling you that this can be a good thing.His expenditure seems huge. It is such a hard position for you and as they say with the forgiveness that time heals all. Although sometimes it seems forever when youv'e been hurt as you have. Try to stay strong and positive and make sure to take care of yourself. Take care Here if you need to talk Piglit
K well, I guess its time to have my first showing of my work... I will put a pic in my profile... please be honest and realize I am just starting so I know its not great.... 🙂 but you guys inspired me to find the outlet I think you deserve first look lol
well only one would post and its too big lol but you get the idea, its my dresser,