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help with dealing with people with personality disorders

Posted by Al_from_DC @alfromdc, May 11, 2012

Looking for help with dealing with people with personality disorders. I have two teenage daughters and I believe their mom has a personilty disorder.. going thru a difficult time after a divorce

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jsparks | @jsparks | May 11, 2012

that is very very tough on everyone involved, and I went thru it at age 4 and believe thats when I develop my personality disorder. I don't know the best solutions but I can maybe help you learn a few dos and don'ts because for a long time my mothers help hurt WAYYYYYY worse, finally she has learned how to approach, but my biggest advice is never make her feel like her thoughts or worries are not important

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Roxie43 | @roxie43 | May 13, 2012

One of the best methods for dealing with personality disorders is DBT- Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. This therapy helps the individual learn techniques to cope with stressor's by learning to recognize stimuli that triggers unhealthy responses as well as emotion regulation. Has she been diagnosed with an Axis II or is she just being labeled?
Persons with personality disorders often have a history of trauma. Is she in treatment?
If not, nicely encouraging treatment may help. Also, don't fall into the trap of having your buttons pushed which can be very easy to do. Some fear abandonement an a divorce can feel as such..
Take care,
Rox

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FindingdaTruth | @findingdatruth | May 13, 2012
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@jsparks

that is very very tough on everyone involved, and I went thru it at age 4 and believe thats when I develop my personality disorder. I don't know the best solutions but I can maybe help you learn a few dos and don'ts because for a long time my mothers help hurt WAYYYYYY worse, finally she has learned how to approach, but my biggest advice is never make her feel like her thoughts or worries are not important

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Walking on eggshells! That is what it's like. I agree bad for all.

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LizKat | @lizkat | May 13, 2012
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@jsparks

that is very very tough on everyone involved, and I went thru it at age 4 and believe thats when I develop my personality disorder. I don't know the best solutions but I can maybe help you learn a few dos and don'ts because for a long time my mothers help hurt WAYYYYYY worse, finally she has learned how to approach, but my biggest advice is never make her feel like her thoughts or worries are not important

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I think there is a book called walking on eggshells that is for family/friends of personality disordered people.

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jsparks | @jsparks | May 14, 2012
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@jsparks

that is very very tough on everyone involved, and I went thru it at age 4 and believe thats when I develop my personality disorder. I don't know the best solutions but I can maybe help you learn a few dos and don'ts because for a long time my mothers help hurt WAYYYYYY worse, finally she has learned how to approach, but my biggest advice is never make her feel like her thoughts or worries are not important

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what a perfect description... my girlfriend was on her way over and I called and said ya, um maybe bad night... She said is it pretty bad, i answered yes, she said Well call if you need me, I will try again in the morning... I hate that I can feel it boiling but so afraid I wont be able to stop from exploding for no reason but I found a girl that knows when I need time alone because I do not like to take anyone down with me

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piglit | @piglit | May 14, 2012
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@jsparks

that is very very tough on everyone involved, and I went thru it at age 4 and believe thats when I develop my personality disorder. I don't know the best solutions but I can maybe help you learn a few dos and don'ts because for a long time my mothers help hurt WAYYYYYY worse, finally she has learned how to approach, but my biggest advice is never make her feel like her thoughts or worries are not important

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Hi It's good that you have someone who understands where you coming from.Are you okay. I.m always here if you need me Piglit

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jsparks | @jsparks | May 14, 2012
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@jsparks

that is very very tough on everyone involved, and I went thru it at age 4 and believe thats when I develop my personality disorder. I don't know the best solutions but I can maybe help you learn a few dos and don'ts because for a long time my mothers help hurt WAYYYYYY worse, finally she has learned how to approach, but my biggest advice is never make her feel like her thoughts or worries are not important

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ya well just 7posted the situation on another thread, just got informed of 2 ime the insurance com7pany sending me to, and never had one, just stressed and just don't wanna put myself in a situation that sends me off into the bottomless pit. Its strange the more I have learned the more I can see 7patterns or something but I just am being cautious

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jsparks | @jsparks | May 14, 2012
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@jsparks

that is very very tough on everyone involved, and I went thru it at age 4 and believe thats when I develop my personality disorder. I don't know the best solutions but I can maybe help you learn a few dos and don'ts because for a long time my mothers help hurt WAYYYYYY worse, finally she has learned how to approach, but my biggest advice is never make her feel like her thoughts or worries are not important

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just very eager/nervous/scared for my 4 hour assessment on Thursday... wonder what he labels me lol

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piglit | @piglit | May 14, 2012
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@jsparks

that is very very tough on everyone involved, and I went thru it at age 4 and believe thats when I develop my personality disorder. I don't know the best solutions but I can maybe help you learn a few dos and don'ts because for a long time my mothers help hurt WAYYYYYY worse, finally she has learned how to approach, but my biggest advice is never make her feel like her thoughts or worries are not important

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You know the old saying throw caution to the wind. Just take things slowly don't jump the hurdles before you come to them. It will be okay and everything will work out. By the way how's your little guy going, he will always bring you sunshine Talk soon Piglit

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piglit | @piglit | May 14, 2012
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@jsparks

that is very very tough on everyone involved, and I went thru it at age 4 and believe thats when I develop my personality disorder. I don't know the best solutions but I can maybe help you learn a few dos and don'ts because for a long time my mothers help hurt WAYYYYYY worse, finally she has learned how to approach, but my biggest advice is never make her feel like her thoughts or worries are not important

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Hey he shouldn't label you anything Only natural to feel the way you do. 4 hours is a longtime but it will go quicker than you think once you get started. Ask for a coffee midway through that should break the mood a bit lol

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