I so sympathize with you. I have very little contact with my adult son (only child) and his new family. Their lives are firmly connected to his new wife's family who live nearby while I'm 7 hours away. I'm lucky if I get a phone call from him every 2-3 weeks. I remember every birthday, holiday, etc., with cards and gifts (which they don't need), but my grandchildren hardly know me. I visit when my health allows, but there's never been any interest in visiting me- not once in 15 years. I feel like an acquaintance rather than a mother/grandmother. It's the worst emotional painI I can imagine – almost as bad as dealing with the death of my husband. Conversations are always congenial but lack any emotional connection. I feel totally alone in the world – even though I'm remarried to a very nice man who is very sympathetic to my situation. I love them all, and I'm grateful they're all healthy and successful, but that doesn't make it hurt any less.