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My wife forgetting: Diagnosed with MCI
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Oct 12, 2021 | Replies (65)Comment receiving replies
Orca59
My wife can remember minute details from many years ago but not so much from the last few years. She has never been great with technology but I forget that sometimes, like today when I was driving and asked her to text our granddaughter that we were on our way to pick her up. She couldn't remember how to use the phone or which icon to tap on to start a text message. Then she started getting upset, calling herself stupid and other names. I apologized for asking her to send the text message and tried to calm her down before we got to our granddaughter’s house. It was my fault that she was upset because I forgot she has MCI. We took our granddaughter to lunch at a restaurant that we have been to about 3-4 times over the last few years. My wife told our granddaughter we had never been to the restaurant before. I never corrected her because I knew she would get upset. I find it difficult sometimes to remember that my beautiful wife of 51 years is having a problem with her memory but that’s my problem and I will work on fixing it.
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Bless your heart, it sounds like you are so very patient and kind. My husband also brings me his phone and says things like, "Can you fix this on my phone, I have never seen this before". And, there is nothing at all different on the phone. He just forgets how to navigate through it. So I understand your dear wife not being able to find the text button. This morning my husband asked me what month we were in and he thought it was June. He also seems to be nervous if I am away for any length of time such as the store, or visiting family for a few hours. He is reluctant to let me drive too far and fears something will happen to me. I have started to stay home more and sometimes feel so sad. I need to find a way to balance seeing other members of my family. Both families live an hour away. I work on patience too. Especially the repetitive nature of his questions. You are correct, these are small things in the scheme of things, and I too need to work on fixing that part of myself. May I ask how old your dear wife is? My husband is 71, but I saw glimpses of the changes years ago.
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DanL You are an amazing caregiver. Good for you.