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Hi @lah, I added your discussion to the Caregivers group as well. I believe there are other caregivers here who are all too familiar with the emotional side of advanced cancer – for both of you.

Lah, you describe the situation as feeling like a whirlwind and that you feel totally helpless. Can you tell me a bit more about those 2 things? Has it been the treatments, tests, and in and out of the hospital that has been a whirlwind? Or has it been the results and decisions you've had to make? Or all of the above?

How does your husband feel about continuing treatment?

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Thank you for your response .
The whirlwind feeling is of life flying by and I know life will never be the same as it was pre cancer. Probably just feeling sorry for myself. Plus the fact I didn't get any sleep for 3 days. My little brother died of a massive heart attack. The covid didn't help …just feels like things are piling up!
To make it worse my husband told me he is not an invalid and I dont need to remind him of appts and tests etc.. He will let me know if he needs my help. That hurt. I'm a person who wants to take care of ppl so I feel helpless. He doesn't want me asking how he is feeling. He doesn't breathe hard when talking to someone.but he walks around the house breathing hard and talking about his feet and hands hurting so bad. His mouth and then yet sometimes he will just reach out hold my hand. It is all confusing to me. I don't know what to say or do cause it is never correct.