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How to have relationships while living with depression?
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Sep 16, 2021 | Replies (104)Comment receiving replies
I go through a constant eruption with my wife when I think she is criticizing me. I grew up with a narcissistic Dad who was always right . Never apologized or said he was sorry. When I am criticized about something I usually am calm and sensitive with my wife. Sometime I blow a gasket and need to walk away before I do something I regret. I do have propranolol to bring my 200+ blood pressure down when this happens but I am not reacting to my wife. I’m reacting to my Dad who died in 1979.
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It's good that you realize that you're reacting from something in the past, but are certain words triggering that. Is it possible for you and your wife to use other less triggering words so that she can express herself and not trigger you. Just a thought.
@stsopoci I think many of us find ourselves in that position! While it is great to recognize a trigger for us, who has tried to explain it to the other person/s and tried to reach a mutually beneficial conclusion? What was the outcome? For me, my spouse simply says, "deal with it", which serves no good except to slide me further away.
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Hello @stsopoci, your last sentence, "when this happens but I am not reacting to my wife. I’m reacting to my Dad who died in 1979" shows great insight. Good for you! I appreciate your sharing that.