@januaryjane You're right that every patient deserves respect, and to be listened to, fully. Is this surgery elective? Will it make your life less stressful? Perhaps the Dr was weighing the risks/various outcomes versus the benefits of the surgery, is that possible? That is what my first thought was, when I read it. I once had a surgical opinion for a procedure, where the Dr said it would probably work, but the risk was something he wasn't comfortable with. He would do it reluctantly. He was being honest.