Isolation: How Do We Handle it?

Posted by Teresa, Volunteer Mentor @hopeful33250, Mar 16, 2020

As boundaries are being mandated in order to prevent the spread of COVID-19, these boundaries are affecting every area of our lives. Many hospitals, assisted living facilities, places of worship, libraries, restaurants, community centers are being closed to visitors and public gatherings. For many of us, these keep us from our typical ways of connecting with others and engaging with a supportive community.

What are you doing to keep yourself connected?

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@wisco50

What does VRD stand for? Not familiar with those initials?

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Vacation Rental Dwelling. Generally, these are houses purchased only to provide rental income, either a modest home that's razed and replaced by a 2-story 4-5 BR place or a place built with that purpose in mind. We have entire communities that are built, not for anyone to live in, but for people to buy for investment, and the builder provides the rental services, cleaning, etc. When your neighborhood is at least 30-35% second homes (used by the owners and their relatives and friends) and 24% VRDs, it's difficult to have any sense of neighborhood. Because the visitors pay very high rent (hundreds per night) and pack in an average of 4 per BR, there are noise, parking, and overflowing garbage issues. Our town is the first place people see when they arrive at the coast from the more densely populated Willamette Valley, so it has far more nightly rentals (motels, VRDs, illegal rentals) than most towns on the Oregon coast. I need to be quick to retrieve my trash can after the garbage truck empties it--or visitors will start throwing trash in or near it. I've seen visitors actually chase "our" deer with their cars, even when they have very tiny fawns. In short, not all visitors behave as they would at home.

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@wildcat

I've never been too thrilled by the idea of exercise for its own sake although I faithfully follow the Pilates shown to me by the physio in the Transplant Unit in Edinburgh.Somehow, I'm not fully awake until they're done!

My response to Covid-19 and all its works is to start dancing again..I searched on the internet for all my favourite dance tunes from my youth; just pick your favourite decade ( mine is a secret!) and compile a playlist. It's great exercise and the memories of happy days just come flooding back.

When my husband saw me dancing to 'This Old Heart of Mine'( and that's a giveaway!) he said he could hardly believe that only a few years ago I was at death's door. We should never forget the miracle of transplant and the gift we have been given. Good times will come again when we won't have to dance alone. I know it.

Can I also make a small request? The Covid 19 stream is now becoming so large that we are all receiving many emails each day. It's lovely to hear from everyonebut could we keep this stream purely for Covid 19 issues? In itself it is a huge subject and likely to get bigger as time goes on. Thanks to all.

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Wildcat, Interesting about dancing! Just got through this weekend reading Bren'e Browns book "The Gifts of Imperfections"! Published in 2010, she talks about how we all need to Dance in life! Both figurativly and litteraly!
Richard

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@joyces

Vacation Rental Dwelling. Generally, these are houses purchased only to provide rental income, either a modest home that's razed and replaced by a 2-story 4-5 BR place or a place built with that purpose in mind. We have entire communities that are built, not for anyone to live in, but for people to buy for investment, and the builder provides the rental services, cleaning, etc. When your neighborhood is at least 30-35% second homes (used by the owners and their relatives and friends) and 24% VRDs, it's difficult to have any sense of neighborhood. Because the visitors pay very high rent (hundreds per night) and pack in an average of 4 per BR, there are noise, parking, and overflowing garbage issues. Our town is the first place people see when they arrive at the coast from the more densely populated Willamette Valley, so it has far more nightly rentals (motels, VRDs, illegal rentals) than most towns on the Oregon coast. I need to be quick to retrieve my trash can after the garbage truck empties it--or visitors will start throwing trash in or near it. I've seen visitors actually chase "our" deer with their cars, even when they have very tiny fawns. In short, not all visitors behave as they would at home.

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Thanks for explanation! Not common here, I guess. As to people chasing deer with cars - or any other way.....a pox on them! Idiots!

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@joyces

Vacation Rental Dwelling. Generally, these are houses purchased only to provide rental income, either a modest home that's razed and replaced by a 2-story 4-5 BR place or a place built with that purpose in mind. We have entire communities that are built, not for anyone to live in, but for people to buy for investment, and the builder provides the rental services, cleaning, etc. When your neighborhood is at least 30-35% second homes (used by the owners and their relatives and friends) and 24% VRDs, it's difficult to have any sense of neighborhood. Because the visitors pay very high rent (hundreds per night) and pack in an average of 4 per BR, there are noise, parking, and overflowing garbage issues. Our town is the first place people see when they arrive at the coast from the more densely populated Willamette Valley, so it has far more nightly rentals (motels, VRDs, illegal rentals) than most towns on the Oregon coast. I need to be quick to retrieve my trash can after the garbage truck empties it--or visitors will start throwing trash in or near it. I've seen visitors actually chase "our" deer with their cars, even when they have very tiny fawns. In short, not all visitors behave as they would at home.

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Don't understand this vacation dwelliing email. I own my home. nothing to do with renting of any kind. Nancy

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@shortshot80

Don't understand this vacation dwelliing email. I own my home. nothing to do with renting of any kind. Nancy

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You and I bought places we intended to live in, but our area is so handy to Salem and the valley that people buy houses here with no plan to use them, now or later, just rent them nightly through one of the rental agencies in town. People have to make a bit of an effort to get to your town as it's not right at the end of the highway from a metro area. Ours is. When I bought this place almost 60 years ago, I had no idea that someday at least a quarter of the houses in my community would be nightly rentals. I thought that all the hundreds of acres of old growth spruce forest and some second growth alder forest would always be here. How stupid I was!

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@joyces

You and I bought places we intended to live in, but our area is so handy to Salem and the valley that people buy houses here with no plan to use them, now or later, just rent them nightly through one of the rental agencies in town. People have to make a bit of an effort to get to your town as it's not right at the end of the highway from a metro area. Ours is. When I bought this place almost 60 years ago, I had no idea that someday at least a quarter of the houses in my community would be nightly rentals. I thought that all the hundreds of acres of old growth spruce forest and some second growth alder forest would always be here. How stupid I was!

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hEOO, yES i LIVE IN PACIFIC CITY, HAVE LIVED HERE SINCEi' 1986M BEFOR THAT WE LIVE HRE AS LONG AS WE WANTED TO BE IN THE RIGHT PLACE. . wE HAVE FOUR LOTS PUT UP A GARAGE. wE UPGRADED THE 5 FOOT LONG GARAAGE RIGHT AND WE MADE SURE THAT IS WAS N THE WRIGHT PLACE. tHAT WAS MAD. sO NOW WE HAVE MOST EVERYTHING IN IT'S RIGHT PLACE.

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@shortshot80

hEOO, yES i LIVE IN PACIFIC CITY, HAVE LIVED HERE SINCEi' 1986M BEFOR THAT WE LIVE HRE AS LONG AS WE WANTED TO BE IN THE RIGHT PLACE. . wE HAVE FOUR LOTS PUT UP A GARAGE. wE UPGRADED THE 5 FOOT LONG GARAAGE RIGHT AND WE MADE SURE THAT IS WAS N THE WRIGHT PLACE. tHAT WAS MAD. sO NOW WE HAVE MOST EVERYTHING IN IT'S RIGHT PLACE.

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@shortshot80
Nancy, It sounds like you have a lovely home!

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@hopeful33250

@shortshot80
Nancy, It sounds like you have a lovely home!

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i REALLY DO, wHEN bOB AND i WERE FISHING WH ACCUMULATED LOTS OF DIFFERENT FLOATS. wE rICHARD AND HIS FRIEND HAVE NEED COLLECTION MORE FLOATS WHEN THEY ARE DOWN ON THE BEACH. i WANT THEM ON THE FENCE MAYBE AROUND THE FENSE OF THE YARD. i THINK THEY ARE NEAT AND ENJOY LOOKING AT THEM. dON'T CARE WAHT HAPPENS AFTER i'M GONE BUT WHILE IAM HERE i LIKE THEM. i HAD TWO REALLY LAREGE ONES AND SOME AH STOLE THEM OVE NEW YEAR EARS EVE 219. some HOW SOME WAY SOMEDAY THEY WILL BE pAID BACK. wHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND. paybacks ARE hELL. anyway THAT WHAT i THHINK. nANCY dID YOU GET THE BOOK YET? aMAZON $13099

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@shortshot80

hEOO, yES i LIVE IN PACIFIC CITY, HAVE LIVED HERE SINCEi' 1986M BEFOR THAT WE LIVE HRE AS LONG AS WE WANTED TO BE IN THE RIGHT PLACE. . wE HAVE FOUR LOTS PUT UP A GARAGE. wE UPGRADED THE 5 FOOT LONG GARAAGE RIGHT AND WE MADE SURE THAT IS WAS N THE WRIGHT PLACE. tHAT WAS MAD. sO NOW WE HAVE MOST EVERYTHING IN IT'S RIGHT PLACE.

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dO YOU LIVE HERE NOW???? iF SO WHERE?

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As to isolation, for some of us, this time isn't terribly different. In Oregon, our Gov acted early and proactively to close everything that isn't essential. Perhaps the most difficult thing is that this state has laws to prevent drivers from filling their own cars, but the Gov has suspended that law, enabling service stations to be self-service--without any explanation of how to fill your car if, like me, you've driven here all your life!

Although I'm 77, I still have a design and marketing business from my home office, but all jobs have always been done remotely, with brief client meetings to discuss ideas and proofs of finished work. The sport fishing industry will take a long time to recover, so I have none of that work right now. I'm still doing the same volunteer work, which has never involved many other people, but means driving, loading and unloading generally totally alone. I still do fish surveys, which, again, means driving for hours and then hiking miles--by myself with my dog for a companion. I e-mail the results, and receive e-mailed results of other surveys by other volunteers for our project, but there's never been much of any contact between volunteers...no annual meetings or picnics, just e-mailed reports of results.

Big changes are no monthly fly fishing club (one of the few things my husband was willing to go out for) and the weekly lecture series we used to attend during fall and winter months. Winter term ended two weeks early when Oregon shut down, so there was a flurry of rescheduling lectures for what we hope will be a Fall term...but, as Curriculum Dir., I haven't scheduled the remainder of Fall Term because it could be an exercise in futility. If things have opened up and look positive by July, we'll knuckle down and schedule the 12 weeks of Fall Term then.

Our home has no nearby neighbors, although the same people walk our road for exercise most days, but those interactions are the same, a "hello" from my position bent over tending flower beds to someone walking past with little conversation. We hardly ever have visitors, although, gasp, we had two after the first of the year, a veritable flood! The one thing I really miss is the library: due to Meniere's going bilateral almost a year ago, I'm now virtually deaf most days, so I had been checking out several books each week to take the place of phone calls, TV, radio, a few words here 'n there with my spouse. We own thousands of books, so I'm re-reading some of those. In addition to our own acreage, there's over 200 acres of undeveloped forest adjacent our place, so I have plenty of places to walk by myself...as usual. There's also more yard/outside work here than I'll every be able to do, so I can pick and choose each day.

So, for some us, other than loss of income that we don't actually NEED, life hasn't changed a whole lot. I can only imagine how dreadful it would be to live in a dense complex where there is no wild place nearby, where you are really stuck inside. That would be a nearly impossible situation for me!

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