My husband was officially diagnosed with Stage 1 Alzheimer's in 2012. We used the various Alz. meds for about 4 years and we saw no significant improvement so decided to stop. I basically tried to follow the recommendation of good diet, exercise, and socialization. At age 74 he finally stopped skiing with his 84 year old buddy this past season but they still ride their bikes together occasionally-about 15 miles last month. He's able to walk our dog around the neighborhood as long as he stays on the same path; and many of our neighbors know him.
He's now in Stage 2 and is requiring more help with ADL's such as dressing and personal hygiene. He occasionally needs reminders about table manners, but so far we can still go out to eat with our friends. I can leave him alone for about 3 hrs. and he's content to stay home and watch TV. However, he can't read, write or tell me or our sons what our names are. If the phone rings he'll answer if if the caller ID says it's me, but then he can't remember how to hang up. He's having more and more trouble following directions, remembering which room is the bathroom, completing sentences, etc. He loves "talking" to people and especially kids. He has a wonderful sense of humor and people used to say that it was hard to believe he has Alz. My goal has been to keep him home with hired caregivers as long as possible (but not yet) and then admit him to the new VA home about 1 1/2 hrs. away where it would be really difficult for me to visit him, especially in the winter because we live in the Sierra Mts. of California. One of our sons lives only 10 mins. away but his family and job keep him really busy so I don't like to bother them for help too much-yet! I am so grateful for the support of caring friends.
My biggest concerns now is that in spite of how hard I try be patient, I sometimes get frustrated which makes him frustrated too. Recently he's had some bad temper outbursts that could have physically hurt me or my other son. I have A. Fib and a pace maker and expect to get a knee replacement soon. I know I need to take care of myself or I cant take care of him, but I am most concerned about these moments of rage even tho they are over in a few secs. and only happen a couple times a month-usually when we are over-tired and stressed. My family and friends are starting to be concerned about my safety.
It breaks my heart to think about having him have to go to a home sooner that I had "planned'. I'd appreciate any words of wisdom. I'm trusting the Lord to help me make good decisions, but know that He uses other people to give me good advice. Thanks!!