The new church start-up as well as the Transitions group sounds just ideal for you. Church and support groups have always helped me to see beyond myself and my disappointments and have helped me put it all in perspective. I hope that it does the same for you.
It sounds like you've set some good boundaries with the time you have set to see "Mr. Wonderful." Good for you. I know it isn't easy.
Here is a new MLK quote for you, I hope you like it: "Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase."