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Dementia: Just diagnosed and scared

Brain & Nervous System | Last Active: Jul 28, 2019 | Replies (72)

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@1977lizzy

HE thinks he's just fine. Unfortunately, he has made serious financial errors, constant confusion and, for now, I've stood back because he doesn't want anyone to know he has ALZ. His next neurologist appt. is in June & I hope after hearing the doc urge him to allow me to handle business matters, he'll do so. If not, I'll have no choice but to become more aggressive which will make him very angry. I'm in an ALZ support group facilitated by professionals & have learned a lot. My mother lived with me for several years; she had ALZ but the dynamics were very different.

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@1977lizzy Do you have a Power of Attorney document? If so, his doctors would make recommendations that would invoke Power of Attorney so you can handle everything without question. You don't have to convince him. I know it's hard. You'll have to hide your doings to keep him from interfering. My father in law had ALZ and had angry outbursts. The best thing to do was just change the direction of the conversation and distract him with something else. He had been against updating the kitchen for many years (even just new wallpaper), and we got him to go along with it by complimenting him for picking out the new wall paper and it made him feel good to think he was in charge and getting attention for it. We did that over and over and he really was happy about it and the 30 year old wall paper was gone.

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