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"Why bother?" What can we do when we are stuck?

Posted by Parus @parus, Feb 9, 2019

This has been brought up before in things that help. Now maybe some can share how we get out of a rut to help ourselves. We all get stuck stuck at times. Curious as to what others do when stuck in that thought mode of "Why Bother?"

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Teresa, Volunteer Mentor | @hopeful33250 | Feb 9, 2019

Thanks for this great topic, @parus. I would like to invite some others to this discussion, @gailb, @georgette12, @brit, @lioness, @becsbuddy, @gingerw, @sirgalahad, @julie1976, @pigletpmd

I'm looking forward to hearing what others have to say. What do you do when you are in the "Why Bother" attitude?

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suscros68 | @suscros68 | Feb 9, 2019
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Thanks for this great topic, @parus. I would like to invite some others to this discussion, @gailb, @georgette12, @brit, @lioness, @becsbuddy, @gingerw, @sirgalahad, @julie1976, @pigletpmd

I'm looking forward to hearing what others have to say. What do you do when you are in the "Why Bother" attitude?

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Sometimes I feel like why bother, especially after constant medical problems one after another. Sometimes it feels so hard to keep fighting and life can just wear you down. I do ask myself why bother and my answer is because I am worth it. I still have goals I want to achieve, joys I want to experience, family and friends I want to spend time with. So I keep pushing forward finding joy in everyday life. I've struggled with depression, suicidal thoughts and lost everything I cared about so I've been literally at the bottom. I have worked hard to rebuild my life and continue to strive for building a life worth living. Remember you are worth it, you matter

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Merry, Volunteer Mentor | @merpreb | Feb 9, 2019

@suscros68- What a wonderful response to this question. You hit it right on the top of the nail!

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Merry, Volunteer Mentor | @merpreb | Feb 9, 2019

@parus- Why bother? Such a great question. I bother because I want to make a difference in this world and I think that I have and can still continue to. I want to help take care of it, feed the birds and see you my son and daughter, be with my family and and friends. I want to visit more countries and see as much as I can see. Bothering is caring, we know this but bothering at all is a way out of our individual traps. I have to get angry at myself, or my husband does. Then I start to move and get going instead of not doing anything and making things worse for myself. As you have stated we have to take action and not just wait for a miracle.

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lioness | @lioness | Feb 9, 2019
In reply to @hopeful33250 "Thanks for this great topic, @parus. I would like to invite some others to this discussion,..." + (show)
@hopeful33250

Thanks for this great topic, @parus. I would like to invite some others to this discussion, @gailb, @georgette12, @brit, @lioness, @becsbuddy, @gingerw, @sirgalahad, @julie1976, @pigletpmd

I'm looking forward to hearing what others have to say. What do you do when you are in the "Why Bother" attitude?

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@hopeful33250 This is a good topic @ parus ask. Glad you did . I know we all have problems but mine is a little different . I'm 76 throughout the last 20 years I,ve lost my husband, Mother , brother and the only one I have left is my son ,D I L , and grandson who is the light of my life now. Besides all the health problems I am now embarking on balance problems The Dr is sending me to see a Dr who will test me for Tympanometry ,Reflex Thresh a comprehensive audiometry threshold Evaluation and speech recognition. What the heck is this? Two things I don't know if I can handle is lack of eye sight or hearing . This is my day now . And I feel lost this it scares me . If it is bad news the I will ask myself why bother ?

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thankful | @thankful | Feb 9, 2019
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Sometimes I feel like why bother, especially after constant medical problems one after another. Sometimes it feels so hard to keep fighting and life can just wear you down. I do ask myself why bother and my answer is because I am worth it. I still have goals I want to achieve, joys I want to experience, family and friends I want to spend time with. So I keep pushing forward finding joy in everyday life. I've struggled with depression, suicidal thoughts and lost everything I cared about so I've been literally at the bottom. I have worked hard to rebuild my life and continue to strive for building a life worth living. Remember you are worth it, you matter

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@suscros68- No one would wish what you have been through on their worst enemy yet it seems like what you have gained by losing so much has given you the strength to rise above your burdens. Thank you for sharing your story with us! Kept striving because you and all of us are worth it! Jim @thankful

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thankful | @thankful | Feb 9, 2019
In reply to @lioness "@hopeful33250 This is a good topic @ parus ask. Glad you did . I know we..." + (show)
@lioness

@hopeful33250 This is a good topic @ parus ask. Glad you did . I know we all have problems but mine is a little different . I'm 76 throughout the last 20 years I,ve lost my husband, Mother , brother and the only one I have left is my son ,D I L , and grandson who is the light of my life now. Besides all the health problems I am now embarking on balance problems The Dr is sending me to see a Dr who will test me for Tympanometry ,Reflex Thresh a comprehensive audiometry threshold Evaluation and speech recognition. What the heck is this? Two things I don't know if I can handle is lack of eye sight or hearing . This is my day now . And I feel lost this it scares me . If it is bad news the I will ask myself why bother ?

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@lioness- Your Mayo friends are here and listening to you. We pray that your news is better than you think. You matter!
Jim @thankful

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Parus | @parus | Feb 9, 2019
In reply to @lioness "@hopeful33250 This is a good topic @ parus ask. Glad you did . I know we..." + (show)
@lioness

@hopeful33250 This is a good topic @ parus ask. Glad you did . I know we all have problems but mine is a little different . I'm 76 throughout the last 20 years I,ve lost my husband, Mother , brother and the only one I have left is my son ,D I L , and grandson who is the light of my life now. Besides all the health problems I am now embarking on balance problems The Dr is sending me to see a Dr who will test me for Tympanometry ,Reflex Thresh a comprehensive audiometry threshold Evaluation and speech recognition. What the heck is this? Two things I don't know if I can handle is lack of eye sight or hearing . This is my day now . And I feel lost this it scares me . If it is bad news the I will ask myself why bother ?

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@lioness Please keep us posted. You have been here for many of us with encouragement. Your fears are real. The waiting is the hardest part. You have weathered so much already.

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lioness | @lioness | Feb 9, 2019
In reply to @thankful "@lioness- Your Mayo friends are here and listening to you. We pray that your news is..." + (show)
@thankful

@lioness- Your Mayo friends are here and listening to you. We pray that your news is better than you think. You matter!
Jim @thankful

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@thankful Thanks I feel like this is a family of friends here . I researched it and found out its not just a hearing teat but inner ear test . After seeing what the Dr. will do I feel better it is the unknown that scares me. I feel better prepared .

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Parus | @parus | Feb 9, 2019
In reply to @merpreb "@parus- Why bother? Such a great question. I bother because I want to make a difference..." + (show)
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@parus- Why bother? Such a great question. I bother because I want to make a difference in this world and I think that I have and can still continue to. I want to help take care of it, feed the birds and see you my son and daughter, be with my family and and friends. I want to visit more countries and see as much as I can see. Bothering is caring, we know this but bothering at all is a way out of our individual traps. I have to get angry at myself, or my husband does. Then I start to move and get going instead of not doing anything and making things worse for myself. As you have stated we have to take action and not just wait for a miracle.

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@merpreb WOW! Bothering is caring. Again WOW! I may post this on the bulletin board where I live if you don’t mind. This is the key in a nutshell.

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