@gingerw– I totally agree with you and your analogy is perfect because that's exactly what happens. My goal in starting this discussion, as @hopeful33250 so eloquently stated we want to help make them less powerful so we don't get ill from them. Taking power back into our lives is the most important process to feeling well. Anger is always anger, but can be triggered by different things and eventually become less important in the journey. I think that situations change the importance of each feeling but doesn't change the actual feeling. what do you think?