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Thank you for your kind response Teresa. I've never had a good opinion of myself, from childhood, through marriage. That was emphasized to me when pre-divorce I did get my now-X to a counselor with me ..... we went a brief time, and one time the therapist asked us to say a few good things about each other. I really didn't have any trouble, because although he is an N, he does have good qualities. When the therapist asked him about my good qualities, my X sat and thought awhile, and finally said, "she's a good mother." (I'm not minimizing that, I worked very hard to raise solid, grounded kids) The therapist then said, "and?" That was all my X could think of. That was the end .... I knew what he thought of me, and I was done. After 3 years of struggling to repair our marriage, and 40 years being married, that's all he could say. The next day I moved out.
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@amberpep Why are you wanting to know about your now-X??? N's only care about themselves. I did therapy with an N-X and he loudly declared there were no problems in the marriage. These kind of people control others in this manner. Nothing is ever their fault. I am a highly sensitive person and his regime was his...Do I still feel like I failed as a mother and a wife??? Of course I do and will continue to feel this way to my dying day. They are delightful as long as they get their way. They are clever copiers of others and see themselves as original thinkers.