@grandmajoan —I hear you! At every turn, we hear “exercise is very helpful for memory patients” but when the patient can no longer walk that far, or has pain when they do, well…not only does it take away the beneficial movement for the patient but also another way of doing health things together. I find myself forgoing walks, for fear of making him feel even worse…and that isn’t good for MY health! I also feel I’m missing out on some things for not wanting to leave him alone too long. And he says “May I borrow your brain for a minute….” You and I are in a similar place. 52 years married, here. Take good care of yourself! (Sometimes it’s difficult to figure out how, with the limitations? Be well.