My sister is being released from the hospital as the head "Hospitalist said nothing more can be done for her. They are a treating place, not a research and find a cure place. Her stomach issues stem from the original ovarian cancer. At the moment, her lungs were cleared. BUT her cancer cannot be treated at this time per the City of Hope oncologist as she is too weak. She has not eaten solid food. Today our brother-in-law hopes to find about home health, not the hospice they want and what insurance will cover. So far it has covered the hospital dollars.
I will ask my brother-in-law about the genetic portion of my cancer. My sister may never had completed it. I want her daughter/ and or son to be aware. I spoke with my younger sister in NY, she feels blind sighted. She got to talk to my sister a number of times. Our sister never let her know where she was at with this cancer. Not the whole truth at any point in time.
This is a place i did not expect to be at so soon. My sister tried helping me through my cancer, she finished cutting my hair super short after my 1st chemo, so i would not have clumps. Cancer was not something i talked to her about, as i saw it if you do not talk about it, it does not exist. She did whisper to me the first time she was hospitalized over a month ago that "she wished she did what i did". At that point, i had no idea her actual state of health.
Even today i need to remember that there is nothing i could say or do to change her journey. I listened to her husband ask necessary questions about her care as she will be released most likely Tuesday. Her answer was she did not want to talk about it. He asked so i could hear as he said it is the same when it is her and him. He asked me if she seems" close to death?". I said i agree with you she will never be the same, but it seems if things work at home, she could be here a while.
This journey is a day at a time.