@bewildered , I stayed with him for several years but getting the care he needed was difficult, in Canada where I live they were closing many hospitals and the patients were abandoned or they chose to live on the streets. He was from the UK and the care for mentally disabled people there was amazing by comparison and he had lots of family there to support him, eventually he went back home and was well looked after, they didn’t give him pills, instead he was given injections twice a month along with therapy. We stayed in touch for years until he died 8 years ago. It’s much harder to get help in my country because our medical system is very different from the US, there’s more to offer and lots of doctors to choose from, truly enviable. I do have to say that sadly you never get back the person that they were before the illness, the most you can hope for is that they take their medication and try to get involved with therapy, I realize that it’s not very easy for you because he’s your child and you always feel responsible for him, a mother’s bond is very strong, I truly hope that you will find peace with him given time, amen.