Hi, it’s really a difficult question to answer because you’re doing the best you can under the circumstances, trying to get help for your son is an act of futility unless he complies with process. I was married to a wonderful man who changed mentally into a stranger to me, he was very intelligent but I couldn’t communicate well enough to make a difference, the other problem was that he didn’t want to take his medication and he had a fear of being locked up which led to a lack of confidence and trust. He was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia and it was very noticeable that he was not well, I went to doctors and hospitals for help but all they offered was medication, it was apparent that the doctors were very cautious about taking control because they always said that if he isn’t hurting himself or others then they wouldn’t do anything. I know that it will never change until they get better medication and treatments to enable them to live life in a more stable way and take their medication and get regular therapy, best wishes.