How to accept yourself when others don't accept you as you?

Cheers to you ginnysnow! We accept their opinions as flaws in their thinking. We love them anyway, even as we limit their presence. Understanding yourself makes outside criticism interesting rather than threatening.
Can you tell us what helped you, without letting us invade your privacy?

God doesn’t make mistakes - he made you the way you are - so other people are the ones who might need to rethink their opinions.

@gently Good to hear from you, Its not about feeling better, its about having charisma

@mbixler I dont believe in that

Hey- I recently came out as bi-sexual @gently this is my truth. My parents are passing it off as a phase again 🙁 and no one actually accepts me for me and it's truly amazing what people say when you don't fit there standard, or expectation of you.

So this is my story: When I was 16 years old, I was struggling to figure out who I was as a person in this world. My sister, Kaydee, who was envious of me because I was more popular than her during this time—now, Kaydee was always jealous of others, including me. Kaydee thought it would be a fun idea to spread the rumor that I was gay, but at this time I did not know that, so my sister Kaydee ruined my life and my reputation at school, and people made fun of me the rest of the year, and it sucked. I would say that was one of my lowest moments ever.
When I was 17 years old, I figured out that I was gay but chose to keep it a secret from most people at that time. Both of my sisters, Kaydee and Lilith, knew that I was. They both promised me that they would keep it a secret until I was ready to tell Mom and Dad. Lilith obviously broke that promise in order to get her phone back, more about that later.
This year, I told all my friends that I was gay. They took it pretty well. Before I did that, I went through an identity crisis. An identity crisis for me looks like me questioning everything. This looks like me questioning who I am, my religion, what I am, who I am, etc. At that time, I became withdrawn from my friends and family, and any activities that I was involved in, D&D mostly. But also, at that time, I became a Green Bandana member. I became a Green Bandana member to help others instead of helping myself.
So, as I stated before, my younger sister told my parents that I was gay for her phone. Funny thing, though, she gets to have a boyfriend, but I can't be bi. On Sunday night, I had no choice but to tell them. They said, “We aren't mad, why didn't you tell us sooner?” I said, “Because when I first told you, you said it was a phase, and Kaydee went through the same thing, but remember, Kaydee and I are two different people.” They said, “We know that, but be who you want to be, just not in our house.”
There were so many emotions raging inside of me. I felt so much anger, rage, frustration, and regret. The reason I felt that way was because they first passed it off as just a phase. I had felt dismissed because it was so much to process at that time. This isn’t how I imagined that they would react, but I’m happy it’s finally out in the open. I was hoping going forward that they would be more accepting of me and love me for being their daughter and not disliking me because I’m gay.
Yesterday morning, my younger sister, Lilith, told me, “They are just worried about your safety.” At this point, I wanted to scream, or punch a wall.Instead, I simply said, “Ok.”
So, with all of that being said, I need to remember that in the future I need to make sure that I’m having these difficult conversations with my loved ones and trusting that they will continue to love and support me unconditionally.

But do they? no they don't, that is why I lied @gently because I didn't want to be treated differently or how you see me.

My son came out to my husband and I when he was 18. We are a family of faith, so he was terrified about how we would respond - so he told us in a letter. My husband called me at work in a rage, but I simply told him to pray about it. Now the Bible says that it is sinful for two men to lay together. That much is true, but the Bible also says that God doesn’t make mistakes. My son is the same person that he was before he came out - a considerate, loving person who has a strong relationship with his Savior. Does me knowing that he is gay change how I love him? Absolutely not. Does it affect how others see him? Sometimes, but once they get to know him, not so much. He is 42, in a stable loving relationship with our son-in-law of 22 years. Many of my friends are on their 2nd or 3rd marriage. Does that make me judge them? No, because no one knows what is happening in a marriage, other than the two people in that relationship. So my message? Only God gets to judge people, if you are judging others, then you are not following what the Bible says. Pray to the Savior. Don’t let prejudices form your decisions. Listen to your heart and stop judging.

Thank you

Announcing to the world, or even a few close people, that you've invited yourself in, (as opposed to coming out) is cause for celebration, not dismissal, by them or anyone else! I didn't reveal my authentic self until I reached 68. Of four existing siblings, two are estranged from me and likely never to speak to me again. It's their loss, not mine. Others have embraced my transformation, which adds to the celebratory nature of the event. What it all boils down to is that I truly don't care what others think of me. I can't change their opinions, so I don't even try. It's not worth the effort. There's an old adage my mentor told me years ago, "Don't waste your time trying to teach a pig to sing. It won't work and it just pisses off the pig." I view detractors much the same way. Good luck, dear.

@bobbie4481

Thanketh thee f'r thy kind w'rds, i shall bethink about those folk and taketh those folk to mine own heart

@ginnysnow, you get to define you. I love @bobbie4481's phrase "you've invited yourself in."

I'm inviting a few more members like @ray666 @olivia55 @farmyou @scottbeammeup @danileew @casscond @benegesserit to let them know you've taken a seat at the table. Welcome.