Workplace Violence Hurts ... It Almost Ended My World

Posted by Roxie43 @roxie43, Apr 13, 2012

Do you know of someone who has been made to feel worthless by a boss, company,or a culture; that promotes and rewards cruelty to human beings?

Do you think it's o.k. to go to work, work hard and be intentionally hurt by workplace bullies who abuse their power?

Just like bullying in classrooms/schools is leading to bullycide's and a host of psychological issues for our youth, adults in the workplace across the world are also suffering.

Workplace, discrimination and retaliation (if you report the sometimes unlawful behaviors):
Robs an individual of their self worth, causes enormous amounts of stress, exacerbates pre-existing health conditions, can limit one's career growth, results in the hard work one does not being recognized and can also include defamation of character, slander, hostile and unhealthy work environments and even SUICIDE!

Sometimes the behavior can be subtle but the abuser knows exactly what he or she is doing. Often the abuser is manipulative and convinces individuals who they perceive as weak to do the dirty work for them so when the behavior is finally reported they are protected.

*****Please visit; http://www.change.org/petitions/workplace*****

Please sign this petition and together let's put an end to a behavior that should never be accepted nor encouraged.

I welcome your stories and I also thank you in advance

In Solidarity Against Cruelty to Human Beings.........

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@maverick

I can relate to this. I had my share of craze bosses. One got me fired. One I had to sue. It was a nightmare. It really does spiral out of control. The worse is feeling you are all alone. You can't use them for reference or even put it in your resume either. It's a loose loose situation. I would recommend to you to start looking for another job. No job is worth your mental and physical health. Talk to your therapist about ways to deal with it, skills you can use to help you through. Don't let the abusers win. They get to you because they know they can. The employers are people too and many are not competent at dealing with people issues. Stay strong and talk to someone, but most of all, get out.

For me, it's been a long hard journey and I finally cracked. I hit bottom and was very depressed for several years. I couldn't get back to work. I've been seeing a therapist for over a year. She has helped me tremendously, but I still have a long way to go. I'm still petrified of the work situation. I'm afraid of going back to work and having the whole thing happen again. I know I have to push myself harder.

You are not alone.

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Yeah good luck.

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@maverick

I can relate to this. I had my share of craze bosses. One got me fired. One I had to sue. It was a nightmare. It really does spiral out of control. The worse is feeling you are all alone. You can't use them for reference or even put it in your resume either. It's a loose loose situation. I would recommend to you to start looking for another job. No job is worth your mental and physical health. Talk to your therapist about ways to deal with it, skills you can use to help you through. Don't let the abusers win. They get to you because they know they can. The employers are people too and many are not competent at dealing with people issues. Stay strong and talk to someone, but most of all, get out.

For me, it's been a long hard journey and I finally cracked. I hit bottom and was very depressed for several years. I couldn't get back to work. I've been seeing a therapist for over a year. She has helped me tremendously, but I still have a long way to go. I'm still petrified of the work situation. I'm afraid of going back to work and having the whole thing happen again. I know I have to push myself harder.

You are not alone.

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Hi Roxi,

I understand that you have invested a long time of you life to this employer and there is no reason why YOU should leave. The bully or bullies should be one ones to leave. Good for you! I'm so happy to hear that you are well and getting stronger! We all need to stand up to these bad people. The more we are aware and speak out, the more these people are held accountable! Abuse and verbal violence should not be tolerated! My prayers to you! Best luck in court!

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@maverick

I can relate to this. I had my share of craze bosses. One got me fired. One I had to sue. It was a nightmare. It really does spiral out of control. The worse is feeling you are all alone. You can't use them for reference or even put it in your resume either. It's a loose loose situation. I would recommend to you to start looking for another job. No job is worth your mental and physical health. Talk to your therapist about ways to deal with it, skills you can use to help you through. Don't let the abusers win. They get to you because they know they can. The employers are people too and many are not competent at dealing with people issues. Stay strong and talk to someone, but most of all, get out.

For me, it's been a long hard journey and I finally cracked. I hit bottom and was very depressed for several years. I couldn't get back to work. I've been seeing a therapist for over a year. She has helped me tremendously, but I still have a long way to go. I'm still petrified of the work situation. I'm afraid of going back to work and having the whole thing happen again. I know I have to push myself harder.

You are not alone.

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I know what a long few months this has been for you Rox. I.m so proud of you. As you know you will be in my thoughts tomorrow. Stay strong my dear friend. Stand up and let your voice be heard this is what you have been working for to achieve and beleive me my sweetie you will make a difference. Take care as always my dear friend. Piglit Big Hugs

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Good morning friends & supporters,
Just left the US DISTRICT COURT. Truly humbling to say the least. I was so anxious but left with a sense of pride. I have a lot of work to do but in the end I know that what I have endured will make me stronger, wiser and accountability will prevail.
I have 14 days to gather all my documents and submit them to the judge. I'm on my way to get the 177 pages of proof to submit today because I'm not waiting.
Although, this stirs up horrible memories and nightmares I have to do this because I've suffered just like many of you have and its not right. Now my employer is sending me letters threatening to cancel my health insurance while I'm out recovering from what they intentionally did to me. Still, I am not going to give up because it just goes to further prove how heartless some people can be. I almost lost everything including my housing but they continue targeting me and I'm home.
I ask for your continued support and please if you're being hurt by an employer speak up because hard working people deserve to go to work and be safe, treated with dignity and respect and not have to contemplate the imaginable because of stigma and indifference.
Take care my friends,
Rox

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@roxie43

Good morning friends & supporters,
Just left the US DISTRICT COURT. Truly humbling to say the least. I was so anxious but left with a sense of pride. I have a lot of work to do but in the end I know that what I have endured will make me stronger, wiser and accountability will prevail.
I have 14 days to gather all my documents and submit them to the judge. I'm on my way to get the 177 pages of proof to submit today because I'm not waiting.
Although, this stirs up horrible memories and nightmares I have to do this because I've suffered just like many of you have and its not right. Now my employer is sending me letters threatening to cancel my health insurance while I'm out recovering from what they intentionally did to me. Still, I am not going to give up because it just goes to further prove how heartless some people can be. I almost lost everything including my housing but they continue targeting me and I'm home.
I ask for your continued support and please if you're being hurt by an employer speak up because hard working people deserve to go to work and be safe, treated with dignity and respect and not have to contemplate the imaginable because of stigma and indifference.
Take care my friends,
Rox

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You GO Girl!!!!!

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@roxie43

Good morning friends & supporters,
Just left the US DISTRICT COURT. Truly humbling to say the least. I was so anxious but left with a sense of pride. I have a lot of work to do but in the end I know that what I have endured will make me stronger, wiser and accountability will prevail.
I have 14 days to gather all my documents and submit them to the judge. I'm on my way to get the 177 pages of proof to submit today because I'm not waiting.
Although, this stirs up horrible memories and nightmares I have to do this because I've suffered just like many of you have and its not right. Now my employer is sending me letters threatening to cancel my health insurance while I'm out recovering from what they intentionally did to me. Still, I am not going to give up because it just goes to further prove how heartless some people can be. I almost lost everything including my housing but they continue targeting me and I'm home.
I ask for your continued support and please if you're being hurt by an employer speak up because hard working people deserve to go to work and be safe, treated with dignity and respect and not have to contemplate the imaginable because of stigma and indifference.
Take care my friends,
Rox

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So very proud of you Roxie. You have continued to fight this head on and not let these unwanted challenges be put in your way. Your voice has been heard today and it will make a difference Take care Piglit

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@roxie43

Good morning friends & supporters,
Just left the US DISTRICT COURT. Truly humbling to say the least. I was so anxious but left with a sense of pride. I have a lot of work to do but in the end I know that what I have endured will make me stronger, wiser and accountability will prevail.
I have 14 days to gather all my documents and submit them to the judge. I'm on my way to get the 177 pages of proof to submit today because I'm not waiting.
Although, this stirs up horrible memories and nightmares I have to do this because I've suffered just like many of you have and its not right. Now my employer is sending me letters threatening to cancel my health insurance while I'm out recovering from what they intentionally did to me. Still, I am not going to give up because it just goes to further prove how heartless some people can be. I almost lost everything including my housing but they continue targeting me and I'm home.
I ask for your continued support and please if you're being hurt by an employer speak up because hard working people deserve to go to work and be safe, treated with dignity and respect and not have to contemplate the imaginable because of stigma and indifference.
Take care my friends,
Rox

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Yes and now I'm home crying. I guess I'll feel better afterwards but I just cannot wrap my head around all this. Total disbelief that people can be so cruel. Having to revisit this today stirred up bad feelings. I could never knowingly hurt a bug nevertheless a human being. It's depressing..
Rox

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@roxie43

Good morning friends & supporters,
Just left the US DISTRICT COURT. Truly humbling to say the least. I was so anxious but left with a sense of pride. I have a lot of work to do but in the end I know that what I have endured will make me stronger, wiser and accountability will prevail.
I have 14 days to gather all my documents and submit them to the judge. I'm on my way to get the 177 pages of proof to submit today because I'm not waiting.
Although, this stirs up horrible memories and nightmares I have to do this because I've suffered just like many of you have and its not right. Now my employer is sending me letters threatening to cancel my health insurance while I'm out recovering from what they intentionally did to me. Still, I am not going to give up because it just goes to further prove how heartless some people can be. I almost lost everything including my housing but they continue targeting me and I'm home.
I ask for your continued support and please if you're being hurt by an employer speak up because hard working people deserve to go to work and be safe, treated with dignity and respect and not have to contemplate the imaginable because of stigma and indifference.
Take care my friends,
Rox

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Thanks LizKat & China!

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@roxie43

Good morning friends & supporters,
Just left the US DISTRICT COURT. Truly humbling to say the least. I was so anxious but left with a sense of pride. I have a lot of work to do but in the end I know that what I have endured will make me stronger, wiser and accountability will prevail.
I have 14 days to gather all my documents and submit them to the judge. I'm on my way to get the 177 pages of proof to submit today because I'm not waiting.
Although, this stirs up horrible memories and nightmares I have to do this because I've suffered just like many of you have and its not right. Now my employer is sending me letters threatening to cancel my health insurance while I'm out recovering from what they intentionally did to me. Still, I am not going to give up because it just goes to further prove how heartless some people can be. I almost lost everything including my housing but they continue targeting me and I'm home.
I ask for your continued support and please if you're being hurt by an employer speak up because hard working people deserve to go to work and be safe, treated with dignity and respect and not have to contemplate the imaginable because of stigma and indifference.
Take care my friends,
Rox

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Sweet Roxie
I hope you can never wrap your head around cruelty. There is no understanding it. I imagine lots of bad feelings will come up. When I have had situations like this, I would do some mental imagery to help. I would picture locking up all the issues and bad memories in a box or safe. That way they didn't follow me around banging in my head. I would pull it out for court and lock it up later. The hardest part for me was having my paperwork/records all ready as I didn't have a lawyer. I would always have a support person help me with that.

Stay strong re:court and save you sweet compassion for us!
LizKat

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@roxie43

Good morning friends & supporters,
Just left the US DISTRICT COURT. Truly humbling to say the least. I was so anxious but left with a sense of pride. I have a lot of work to do but in the end I know that what I have endured will make me stronger, wiser and accountability will prevail.
I have 14 days to gather all my documents and submit them to the judge. I'm on my way to get the 177 pages of proof to submit today because I'm not waiting.
Although, this stirs up horrible memories and nightmares I have to do this because I've suffered just like many of you have and its not right. Now my employer is sending me letters threatening to cancel my health insurance while I'm out recovering from what they intentionally did to me. Still, I am not going to give up because it just goes to further prove how heartless some people can be. I almost lost everything including my housing but they continue targeting me and I'm home.
I ask for your continued support and please if you're being hurt by an employer speak up because hard working people deserve to go to work and be safe, treated with dignity and respect and not have to contemplate the imaginable because of stigma and indifference.
Take care my friends,
Rox

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You have my support Rox. I admire you for going thru this. I know its hard, especially stirring up the nightmares & memories. You are so strong. If you're feeling emotionally drained & need a friend to listen or give you a little support I am here, just let me know ok?

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