Grief and Childlessness: Can't have my own

Obtain care from a trained professional. Grief /loss is a difficult emotion that we all deal with in our life, but if you are not progressing through the stages of it , it is time to seek out professional help and or a support group.
The loss of the womb is difficult for many women. Discussing this with others that have similar emotions/experiences may help, your not alone.

What I've learned: depression is one of the burdens of intelligence. So is sensitivity. I guess the big question for those of us prone to depression is "What are we supposed to do with our feelings?!" It looks to me like the previous writers explained what worked for them. That's fine, as long as no one gets preachy! Have you read Scott Peck's "The Road Less Travelled?" It helped me.

you have a lot going on...grief, depression and hysterectomy - I can not imagine. I have found that my depression is rooted in my physical ailments and now they go hand and hand. writing about it helps me and knowing that i am not alone. i have been searching for solutions and places to connect. this site is good and i am glad i found it. i also spend time at treatmentdiaries...also helpful. i hope yoiu get the support you so deperately need!

I just lost the love of my life. Does anyone have any experience with this? I feel like I'm dying too; all the usual textbook symptoms. I live in a small town in the South with no support at all. I hope to find anonymous support via this website. "Is there anybody out there?" Please, please, I don't want to talk about Jesus. I'm Catholic and I am "saved" and have a "church home". I just want to connect with someone who is going through the same thing.

I feel your pain. Grief is so hard to handle by itself, but add in depression, and the emotions are almost too much to handle. The grief of losing my 19 year old cat sent me spinning into depression. I was already dealing with the fact that my husband lost his job, we lost our house, were having to move across country so my husband could take another job, had to sell many of our belongings before we moved, and now end up in a small condo that I hate. I felt like dying. Therefore, I immediately sought help. I've found another psychiatrist who has added another med to those that I am taking. I'm also going to consider grief therapy. You are not alone in what you are feeling. The pain is so intense, I know. Crying is a good release. You really have to feel the pain in order to get through this, but there is help. All you must be thinking is please make the pain stop. It will get easier with time. It will. Keep sharing with those that understand, like people on this board. It will get easier with time.

read Lisa Osteens book "You were made for More", you will like it ! She wasn't able to have children of her own, she adopted her children.

Hi. I’m new to this group. I never had children either and I often think about how my life would’ve been so different. You are not alone.

Hi @alabamanutcase, welcome to Connect. You've posted to a discussion thread that has been inactive for some time now, however the topic is still very current. Thank you for bringing it to the foreground again.

alabamanutcase, we look forward to getting to know more about you. Did you decide not to have children or did circumstances make that choice for you?

I'm new as well and would like to keep this topic going. I never had children of my own, but I have 2 kids from a previous marriage, and 1 we adopted. I now have 7 grandkids and 2 great-grandkids. To me family doesn't have to be blood to be family. There are so many kids out there that wish they had someone to care for or about them. I came from a broken home, and watched what fighting can does to kids. I never thought I would marry, but I found this wonderful man, and we have been married for 24 years. He had some baggage, which included 2 kids and an EX, but he was worth it all. I had issues and ended up having a hysterectomy about 10 years ago, never having any children. Yes I often wonder what 'our' children would be like, but then I remember 'we' have 3. If you want to have children there are many ways to make that a reality.

Hello, @micheleinok. Glad you've joined us on Mayo Clinic Connect. I thought you might like to meet some other members here on Connect who have talked about a variety of challenges with being able to have children, like @cnesselroad, @carebear, @susanrko, @marield65. They may have some thoughts for you.

If you feel comfortable, will you share with us about what issues prompted the need to have a hysterectomy?