want to talk about depression

good because that means alot to have a real big brother my brother is nothing like that stuff i do is with him that i probably souldnt do

Is this part of the problem with why you are so afraid to talk to someone? Are there some issues between you two that you don't want to happen? Just have to ask that because it's very important that if there are that you talk to your parents right away. But whatever is really at the root of your depression, it still needs to be brought out in the open and talked out with the right person so you can stop being so down and start being happy. As humans, we are not really made to be sad all the time. Our bodies physically react poorly to depression and sadness in the same way that our outside shows what's inside of us when we're happy. We smile, laugh, joke around, and learn to be comfortable with whomever we are meant to be inside.

You absolutely deserve to be happy and no one has the right to stand in your way of that, for any reason. Go to storiesbybm.blogspot.com, which is my blog site about hate, bullying, teen suicide (and also some political things.) Under the "Mission and Story" on the right side you can click on my name and it will let you send me an email.. We have to agree that we'll come back to this site periodically and let the others that have also tried to help with their comments know that you are okay and that you are taking some good steps towards getting the right kind of help that makes sense and works to and for you. With that agreement we'll go "off the grid" a little so we can talk about things that not everyone needs to have you put out on the internet.

If that works for you, then go to the site and you can send me an email from there. And rethink what I said earlier about who you can talk to and have confidence in and think about if you can take that step and start having some better days.

Thinking of you....your big bro.

I don't think it is appropriate for you to contact a young teen on this website and invite her to go "offline" with you. You are not her "big brother" anymore than I am his big sister or big brother. You don't know him and neither do I. If your purpose on this website is to lure young teens away from the site, then I believe you need to rethink your desire to post comments here. I am concerned about the teens you are inviting to go "privately" chat with. I also think that you yourself need some professional counseling because you are not a professional and you are giving way too much advice.

You might want to climb out of your one-track rut and realize that some people do care about others. If you read the posts, this is not a "young teen boy", it happens to be a girl. We laid out the terms of how we would converse and respond back to the blog so that this young person, who is suffering from depression, can at least have a responsible adult provide some options on how to move on with their life in a positive way. If you think that every person out there in the world has "alternate" interests, then you are the one with the problem. I have a degree in counseling, have experienced depression, bullying, hate, and have felt the ignorance of some people (maybe you by the sounds of your one-track comment) and know quite well how to be responsible. FYI- neither of us knows the others location or has any interest in knowing same. So, if you have a positive comment to say to this young person struggling with depression and acceptance, then go ahead an let the rest of us hear it. It may help her, it may not, but make sure it comes from experience, education, and a willingness to put aside ignorance and stupidity for the betterment of that person. On that note, if you choose to offer some POSITIVE advice, don't hide behind "anonymous" and use your real name, like I have. If you have nothing positive to say, then please go about your business. I suggest you look at my blog because it is my mission to help anybody struggling with so many of these and other issues. Take the time to do your research before you jump to conclusions next time please.

Thank you f or your non-constructive criticism. Hopefully your next post will be directed at the right person with some helpful, positive thoughts.

Please reconsider your desire to communicate away from this website with Foxauthor. I do not believe he is a professional and should be giving you so much advice or inviting you to chat elsewhere. If it is something you need to discuss confidentially, it should be done with your parents, a teacher you know or someone else you trust that you actually KNOW. Do NOT get involved with someone from the internet, you do not know them and your parents would not like it either.

They were very concerned about me. My parents believed me and told me I did the right thing by coming to talk to them.

Wow, I'd say you should probably stop counseling others and go get some much needed anger management. Your reply just now does not resemble any reply I have ever read from a 'professional'. If you get that ticked off by what an anonymous post writes, then I doubt you will be effective with clients. i also don't think this website is particularly geared toward providing you with clients. maybe you should think about that before unleashing your misdirected anger upon others that actually do care about teens too.

I wouldn't exactly call that an angry reply. But yours was certainly pointed in one direction. I did however make a spelling mistake. Once again I would say that posting using an anonymous moniker certainly relieves you of any responsibility for your actions and comments. So to continue in this vein is a waste of time. Please, as I suggested, make constructive and positive comments towards this person who is having the problem.

This ends our "conversation" as it is not leading in a direction that will help anyone. My apologies for responding to your comment in the same tone as you wrote it.

As the saying goes, "the proof is in the pudding." BTW - I'm not looking for "clients", I have enough things to do already.

Conversation ended.

Actually "Anonymous", I pretty much agree with you on this. It is exactly in line with what I have been telling this young person, and overall, good advice. You will notice that in almost every conversation I have mentioned the subject of talking to the parents, school counselor, or a counseling center, and also provided as much information about how to go about doing those things. But sometimes talking to parents about things that are close to the heart can be the hardest thing for a young person to do. If you read one of her replies, she entrusted her cousin with some information and it may have caused more of a problem than what she has to deal with now. If you really want to do something to help this person, then continue to offer advice with solutions, not more issues to deal with.

Apparently I've struck a nerve with someone on the clinic blog who doesn't want to say who they are. But they do make a good point about talking to people you don't know on the internet, which is generally not a very good practice without your parents permission..

I've been reconsidering chatting offline and out of the mainstream of the place where we were talking. Although I am here for you at any time to talk to in confidence, I don't want to know where you live or any personal information other than to be able to shine a light in your life and give you some direction as to where to find positive and effective help. I firmly believe that you should give your parents the opportunity to help you. With their support you will be able to get out of this hole called depression and start to see that this will all go away down the road and that your feelings about xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx at your age are quite normal and part of growing up in a pretty tough world.

If you think that what you said is really at the root of your feeling bad, and believe me, it does hurt when xxxxxxxxxxx, xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx issue, then try and think through this carefully However, the feelings you are experiencing are quite normal, and your parents would most likely say that they went through the very same thing when they were your age.

Talk to them. Be open and tell them how you really feel. Let them show you that they have your best interests at heart and only want you to be happy. As sort of an example, I have a son who, went through a really rough time when his first girlfriend dumped him, and it took him some time to get through the feelings of rejection and hurt.

But you will get through this, I promise, if you only open up to your parents, maybe your mom or whomever you are the closest to, and let them know how much you are hurting. Never underestimate the power of a parents love for their child. Someday you will have your own children and will remember this time in your life. At that time your biggest wish will most likely be for them to trust you enough as a parent for them to be as open with you as you need to be with your parents now.

Give it try. You may be very surprised.